- 6 years ago
ugh. i’m again, really angry and just need to vent.
FI’s mother often sends him articles to edit in english, as english not her first language and she is a magazine editor for a chinese magazine. Fiance has a twin brother, and a younger sister.
Recently, she’s been sending him very long ones, almost on a daily basis. its even gotten to the point where she calls him multiple times (saying 2-3 times) at work asking him to do it (right then).
hes been getting sick of it, and i’ve been supporting him. he asked his twin brother and sister if they ever get these edits from her, and they both said no. it doesnt make any sense – his sister is younger, has no responsbilities, and is on summer break. she has plenty of time. mind you – these are not “hard” edits, theyre just correcting weird grammar. his twin brother is a single guy with a job – with more free time than my Fiance. my Fiance (and I) just bought a house, are doing grad school apps, have full time jobs, just got a puppy, and a cat, and he has me. He is often busy, and has much more responsbilities.
So he called her and asked her to give more edits to his sister, and some to his brother, bc he is so busy. she yelled at him for questioning her, told him to never question her, told him she will no longer give him gifts (she gave us a few thousand for our home downpayment) and will only give his other siblings gifts because they dont question her.
its not fair. why does Fiance have to do all this work? its because he never set boundaries with her, while his brother and sister had. for exmple, when he was on the phone, Mother-In-Law would walk in and demand he hang up to hang out with her. she did that with his twin brother, and he put his foot down. so she only does it to Fiance. and when Fiance was dating me, and he tried to tell her to stop, she blamed me for changing him. same thing is happening now
Im just really angry. Its not fair. and I end up looking like the bad guy for changing him. I guess i am, but come on.