(Closed) can i vent?! please? Lord help me

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Honestly… I would just drop everything if I were you considering how ungrateful she sounds about it all. It has nothing to do with being a better friend or not. Friends shouldn’t have to take crap from friends mainly because they are friends. But that’s just how I feel about relationships.

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

some people are givers (you) and some are takers (your friend)… you have to learn to stop giving so much and learn to say NO and stop being taken advantage of – i mean you are paying for her cruise deposit, her dress and a heap of other things that are NOT your responsiblity!

i understand you are excited about your friends wedding and the planning but when she starts bitching you out about a shade of blue not being to her standard then its time to step back and fulfill only the tasks that you said you would do and do nothing more than that

and congrats on your brother – i totally understand priorities changing and this trip for him could be life changing so i applaude you supporting him

Post # 6
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am utterly confused on why you’re still friends with this person – even if this was her actual wedding, she would be completely taking advantage of you, but who decides they must have a vow renewal when they clearly can’t afford it, and then be super bitchy and picky with their friend ho is basically being their slave and paying for everything?!

Post # 7
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Would she do all this for you?

You’re going into so much trouble and pain to give this to her but, is she the kind of friend who would do the same for you someday?

Post # 8
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wait what? You are paying for your friends wedding?

Do you have such money to spend, that people know to come to you when your desperate? You can’t afford to send your family member to France but you can pay for her? 

I’m sorry I’m a wee bit confused!

I give you tons of credit though!

Post # 10
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2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Wonderstruck: My thoughts exactly. A vow renewal? When they can barely make ends meet? And she’s complaining about your GIFT? I’m not sure why you’re friends either, tbh.

Congrats for your brother though, I went to England and France with that program when I was 16 and it was truly life-changing! And your brother’s lucky to have a family so willing to help out! My parents contributed $3000 and I had to work for the rest (mine was $6500).

Post # 12
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3261 posts
Sugar bee

Its not even a wedding! Its a vow renewal! YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PAY FOR ANY OF THIS. If you want to give her a gift, fine. But she’s obviously ungrateful, and you should spend the $500 to give your brother a once in a lifetime trip. Hell, don’t even pay for anything for her, and that way you can donate MORE money to your brother’s France trip.

I hate ungrateful people, this is beyond ridiculous.

Post # 14
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@JessLee83: God bless you! lol

Post # 15
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

BUT my mom is already kind of um, “why are you doing this”

because some times it takes  a village – we are the same in our family, if any of the kids (15yrs to 26yrs) need anything we are all over it to make it happen. my niece goes to university next year and hubby and i will be paying her fees

Post # 16
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65 posts
Worker bee

I think you could find better friends on craigslist. lol.

Seriously though you ARE a giver and you need to meet some new girlfriends that appreciate you and don’t expect things like this.

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