(Closed) Can I wear a black wedding dress? A little long, but I NEED help!!!

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1580 posts
Bumble bee

Do you have a picture of yourself in the dress? Are there any flower details or something like that?

Unfortunately, without seeing the dress, I’m going to have to agree with your mother. You don’t have to wear white, but I don’t think black would be the right color for the occasion.

Post # 4
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If you wear the black dress, you are sure to get a few comments and questions about why you chose to where it. It is your wedding and you can wear whatever you would like to; however, I would have to agree with your mom on this one. Sorry.

Post # 5
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with your mother 100%. It’s bringing that connotation to your wedding,  whether you mean it to or not. You can wear it to the rehearsal dinner if you’re doing one, or some sort of afterparty. Or a nice dinner. Not your wedding.

Post # 6
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think you can wear whatever you want on your wedding day. But i also agree with your mother, 1. you have worn the dress before maybe find another dress in that similar style, and another colour besides black.

Show us a pic.

Post # 7
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry, I’m going to have to agree with your mom and PPs on this one.  Could you find a dress in a similar style in a different color?  I don’t think you need to wear white, but in this situation, I don’t think black is the right choice.

Post # 8
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with mom no matter how to dress looks.  As a guest, I would absolutely think about your tragic past and wonder why you would choose to wear such a dark color on a day that is supposed to be so happy.  I feel that it’s insulting in some ways to your Fiance as well.  I say it”s a big fat NO.  I’m sorry, I bet it’s a great dress!  There’s always a more appropriate event to wear a black dress to though…

Post # 9
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

A colorful dress would be great, and though I’m a big fan of black wedding dresses in some cases, in this one it might take on additional unintended meaning.

Post # 10
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I have to agree with DG, even though I really want to say that it’s a great idea! Because, well, it IS a great idea, and I love it… but I’d be afraid it would take on ‘an unintended meaning’ (exactly like she said; DG, you’re so smart!). 🙁

Post # 11
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

Hmm, unfortunately, I would also think of it as “the widow is getting married” 🙁 Since you love the style/fit of the dress so much, maybe see about finding it (or getting it made) in a different colors?

Post # 12
4485 posts
Honey bee

Wear whatever you want that makes you happy. As far as black goes, for any other event, it’s considered a festive color and not funereal in the least. Also, if it was as morbid as people claim, it wouldn’t be the most popular bridesmaid dress color, for the fact that it is flattering on everyone compared to other colors. Some women cannot wear white, ivory or any other pastel either because it doens’t look good on them. You never ever hear anything about a “little black dress” being morbid for anything as it is expected to be worn at special occasions.

The thing I don’t understand that no one to date has been able to answer is why is black perfectly acceptable and expected for black tie parties and bridesmaids, but if a woman wants to wear it as a guest or a bride, then she’s flaunting the fact that she’s in mourning while everyone else in that same color is happy? If that was true, then why does no one ever mention the fact that men’s tuxes are 99.9% black? Shouldn’t that mean they’re attending a funeral instead of a wedding as well? See why that double standard makes no sense?

Black wedding dresses are worn in Europe without anyone batting an eye and no one there says anything about them being morbid. The only thing that matters is that you love the dress and feel beautiful in it.

Post # 13
1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

I wonder if there is anyway you can brighten the look up….I would worry that guests may get the wrong impression…I have seen some black wedding dresses with white detail that are stunning perhaps you could go that route…I don’t think you have to wear white to be a bride.

maybe something like this:

Post # 14
10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

can you put a colored shrug or jacket on with it in a cream or white color to make it brighter?

Post # 15
4485 posts
Honey bee

You could have a colorful bouquet of your choice.

Post # 16
11808 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I think it’s totally fine!  Especially if it’s a small, not too formal affair.  I’m assuming everyone who is there will be people who 100% love and support you and support all of your choices.  I say go for it!

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