(Closed) Can I wear this as a guest??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it ok to wear a cream lace bolero and plain black dress as a guest?
    Yes! : (33 votes)
    56 %
    No! : (15 votes)
    25 %
    Not sure, it is risky! : (11 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    2324 posts
    Buzzing bee

    if you are worried about it, i’d pcika  diff colour bolero.

    Post # 4
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I think you’re fine…it’s just a bolero…

    Post # 5
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’ve called and asked brides if they would mind me wearing a black dress to their wedding.  So yes, black and cream is very risky.

    That being said, I don’t think many brides would mind.  I definitely wouldn’t.  Who do you know in the wedding?  You might want to run it by them.

    Post # 6
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think it’ll be fine. To be honest, I didn’t know there were people that cared about this until I joined the Bee! No one should mind you wearing a cream bolero and, if anyone does give you death stares, then just take it off.

    Post # 7
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I think it’s fine! 

    Post # 8
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You are fine. It is just the bolero.

    Post # 10
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Completely fine! I can’t even remember what people wore to my wedding. 

    Post # 11
    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @braydurfey:  can you post what the dress looks like? I could definitely see a bride having a problem with that bolero because it looks kind of bridaly. If you think it might be an issue then just pick different colored shoes and a different colored bolero.


    Edited to say: Love that dress, so pretty! The bride will not notice most likely and unless she is wearing a lace bolero it shouldn’t be a problem.

    Post # 12
    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    most of your outfit (aka your dress) is not white – so yes, the white bolero is fine I think

    Post # 14
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My father in law’s wife (fiance at the time) wore a black skirt and white button down. I did not care that she had white in her outfit! I think it’s fine since you’re wearing a black dress. 

    Post # 15
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think wearing a black dress to a wedding is a-okay, however I wouldn’t wear that colour of a bolero/shrug… Especially if you don’t know her. You don’t want to be ‘that girl’ if the bride is very sensitive and sees another girl wearing white. Pretty dress though!

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