Can I wear this dress to a wedding?

posted 3 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
3924 posts
Honey bee

That dress is just fine.

I’ve never understood the don’t wear white rule although I’ve always obeyed it. It’s not as though anyone is going to mistake you for the bride unless you’re in a long, flowy gown. I didn’t even notice what people were wearing at my wedding, nor did I care. But I’ve never been into fashion. On the other hand, if you asked me what diamonds they were wearing I could probably tell you.

Post # 17
6999 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t wear it, for me it’s too much white. I’m definitely of the camp that “if you have to ask, you know the answer”. The fact that this outfit even gave you a pause and has you questioning if it’s appropriate means that you probably shouldn’t wear it. Is anyone going to mistake you for the bride? Of course not.

That being said I just don’t understand why when there are alllllll the other colors/dresses out there people like to push the limits on wearing a majority white dress to someone else’s wedding? At the end of the day you’re the one attending the wedding, not any of us. If you like it and find that it’s what you want to wear who are we to say otherwise?

Post # 18
11970 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Traditional etiquette says no white, meaning all white. It also says registries are unacceptable. 

“Modern” or liberal etiquette, for example Emily Post, says white, yes, shock of all shocks, even all white is acceptable as long as it’s not bridal in appearance. 

Is there any doubt as to why brides want to put traditional etiquette in the past in order to get the gifts they want but are suddenly all traditional-minded when it comes to something they see as taking attention away from them?

Either way, this dress is perfectly fine. So are the accessories it’s shown with. And I lean toward traditional. 

Post # 19
8264 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The ‘ don’t wear white’ thing  isn’t and never was  anything to do with being ‘mistaken for the bride’ . I think that  was prob a catchy semi-sarcastic phrase that seems to have got taken up here. 

Women guests not wearing all-white is a courtesy given because white/ivory has become the traditional colour for brides and allowing her to be the only one wearing it on her wedding day kind of became a protocol. 

Of course any guest actually turning up in white full length flowing tulle is a guest with an agenda lol!

OP, dress seems fine to me and like weddingmaven l incline to the traditional. I am seriously impressed your husband bought it all on his own- mine has done such things too, but never with a garment that actually fitted and/ or l would have ever bought myself …..



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Post # 23
3924 posts
Honey bee

caligirlinmichigan :  That was how I felt. It seemed like it was all over and done in no time, everything went so fast and I was doing something or talking to someone every minute. The only item of clothing I do remember is my grandmother who had a spangly jacket and everyone was saying how good it looked on her. I’m pretty sure she got more compliments  on that jacket than I got on my dress lol. I miss her.

Post # 24
1867 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Course you can wear it. Beautiful dress

Post # 25
662 posts
Busy bee

Yes! That’s lovely.  I’d pick out one of the colors, that deep green or rose, and add a lace shrug or bolero, or silk scarf or something, just to minimize the white top. 

Post # 26
4689 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


Post # 27
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2020

I wouldn’t mind if you wore it to my wedding.  It’s s lovely dress and appropriate for the occasion, in my opinion.  

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