(Closed) Can I wear this dress to my sons wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
1243 posts
Bumble bee


Post # 17
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Hmmmm my gut says no!

Post # 18
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016


Post # 19
2669 posts
Sugar bee


I definitely wouldn’t wear it to a wedding.

Post # 20
9 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

I wouldn’t.

Post # 21
4232 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the dress…but it’s just too much white. I once made the mistake of wearing a white dress covered in pink flowers to a friend’s wedding (I was a few years younger and wasn’t thinking). Fortunatly the dress was knee length and there were enough pink flowers that it wasn’t as obvious…but looking at the pictures later I felt a little bad.

Post # 22
12096 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Very pretty dress! 

According to Emily Post, the no white prohibition is out of date and a white dress is A-OK unless it looks bridal. Traditional etiquette still says no to all-white, but also to destination weddings, honeymoon registries, family throwing showers and other things that many current brides consider “old fashioned.” 

You could take your best guess as to whether she is traditionalist based on those kind of things, but there’d be a good chance you are wrong. No surprise to me that competing with the bride is the one traditional thing that still upsets people. 

In the big cities I’ve seen mothers in cream, ivory and light beige for years, while it’s not so common elsewhere. But in your position I’d  look for something else unless you are 100% sure FDIL would be honest with you. I don’t think I’d be willing to take that chance.

Post # 23
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t care but you should run it by her.  Both my mum and Mother-In-Law checked in with me about their dresses as a courtesy.  I didn’t think they needed to (they both chose navy) but in your case, either choose something else or ASK to make sure it’s ok first.

Post # 24
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

No, don’t wear it. Besides being too white, it is to va-voom for a mother of – dress. Even for a beach wedding.

Post # 25
4036 posts
Honey bee

Not my taste at all. Besides avoiding so much white, I think the print will make it a “look at me” kind of thing.

Post # 26
1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Tuttsy:  The only one who can tell you for sure is the bride.  It does look mostly white but doesn’t look bridal at all.  It is a beach wedding so I am guessing that her dress isn’t a huge ball gown, and you dont want to be too close to her look.  Are her colors different shades of blue? maybe something like this would be better…


Post # 27
1362 posts
Bumble bee

Tuttsy:  I think the silhouette is too bridal. It wouldn’t be so bad if the skirt stopped just below the knee instead of fanning out.

Post # 28
4063 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you have to ask, my vote is always no.

Post # 29
429 posts
Helper bee

It would not bother me. Is there an obvious amount of white yes, but the neckline and huge colorful flowers make it guest appropriate.  Also the venue/settin would allow it.  If you want to be certain ask you son and FDIL but I vote wear it.  I think it is a lovely.

Post # 30
1457 posts
Bumble bee

I would think my Future Mother-In-Law didnt like me or something, but I do know that regional ettiquette where I’m from is more strict about this type of thing

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