(Closed) Can I wear this dress to my sons wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Definitely not. 

Post # 62
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2110 posts
Buzzing bee

No, please don’t.

It’s a beautiful dress but you don’t want to upset anyone or have people giving you the side eye.

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Only because other people seem so sensitive about it, I’d say no. But I personally wouldn’t care one bit. Hopefully one day these silly kinds of traditions will die out.

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

No, don’t do it, better safe than sorry and there are so many other colours 

Post # 65
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Bumble Beekeeper

kflemin3:  

I don’t think it is about being ‘confused with the bride’. I mean unless they are the same age  and the guest’s dress is a tulle ballgown it ‘s pretty damn unlikely .

It’s about white /ivory full length dresses being traditional bridal wear and the idea that  guest should respect that  by allowing  the  bride alone to wear it at her own wedding.

And OP , this goes triple if you are the grooms mother …….. 

A  pp above thinks it’s  a ‘silly tradition’ but by no means everybody does .

 

Post # 66
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

You can find something better that won’t look bridal. 

I’d be annoyed if my Mother-In-Law showed up in that. 

Post # 67
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Busy bee

I’d check with the bride. It wouldn’t bother me AT ALL. Lovely dress.

Post # 68
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Why not ask the bride how she feels about it?

Post # 69
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I love the dress! I wouldn’t care if my Future Mother-In-Law wore something like that to my tropical wedding. It doensn’t look anything like a wedding dress to me so you wouldn’t be “confused as the bride”. I would, however, run it by the bride 1st.

Post # 70
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Bumble bee

Unless you’re sure your future DIL is okay with it, I’d get another dress.

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee

OMG, I hate these threads……OP, yes you can wear that dress!!! Its beautiful and perfect for a beach wedding……I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, i have no idea why a bride would get mad at anyone else for what they are wearing!!! Do any of you who said “no absolutley not” really think that anyone is going to get confused as to who is getting married? Or that if someone else wears white is will somehow “ruin” the wedding? I just dont’ understand where this mentality comes from. Get over yourselves.

OP, wear what you think is best. The only opinions that matter are your son’s and fdil’s so send them this pic and see what they say. She could be laid back, like me, and only want you to be comfortable and wear what you like. Or she could be like the other posters on here and have a problem with it for a reason that is lsot on me altogether. Good luck!

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Yes. It’s a beach wedding! I am getting married on the beach in Riviera Maya. I would not have a problem if my Mother-In-Law did the same. It’s a beautiful dress. A lot of people wear light color dress/outfit in a beach wedding. 

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s very pretty! The only thing that might be odd is if most of the blue is blocked in family pictures. Then you have two women in white dresses 🙂 Definitely check with your FDIL though. My Mother-In-Law had a blue dress picked out and then bought a dress in almost the exact color of my bridesmaid dresses. Not sure why she did that. It looks funny in pictures because it makes my own mother’s dress look out of place. So, yes, I think it will be fine so long as you think about how it will look in pictures as well. 

Post # 74
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Blushing bee

DO NOT wear this dress. There are plenty of maxi dresses in this world, pick a different color/design. There is absolutely no reason for you to wear white to a wedding – not only will other guests notice it (in a bad way), that’s very disrespectful to your future daughter in law. This is her wedding, her chance to be the blushing bride in white. Think of how photos of you with the newlywed couple would look… *groan*. Do you want to look like you’re competing with your son’s bride? 

Post # 75
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Worker bee

Looks like there’s already been enough feedback on this, but NO you cannot wear this dress.  Do not ask your FDIL, just DO NOT wear it.  It would be inconsiderate to ask her and put her in the uncomfortable position of telling you what not to wear.  Besides, even if the bride is completely fine with it, many other guests will do a double-take and question your choice– I know I would if I saw it.

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