Post # 76
I know this has already been said, but NO especially since you are her Future Mother-In-Law. That makes it so much worse and if you ask her if its okay that will put her in a really awkward situation because she probably even if shes not okay with it she will feel a lot of pressure to say yes just because its you.
Post # 77
LilliV: Definitely agree and I think it would actually be inconsiderate to ask the bride about a dress that is primarily white. Regardless of your relationship, it would be uncomfortable for a bride to tell her Future Mother-In-Law what not to wear (esp. if it’s already been purchased). A Future Mother-In-Law can certainly communicate with the bride to be sure her dress coordinates well and does not compete with bridesmaids and MOB, but she ought to propose an appropriate dress, not one mostly white, even for beach/tropical.
Post # 78
Also, for those saying this could not be “confused with the bride”– for a more casual beach/tropical destination I actually think this dress could be a lovely and unique bridal dress. (For me, whether it’s bridal or not, if it’s white it’s a “no” esp. for MOG).
Post # 79
Its really pretty, but i wouldnt. I think its a stupid tradition that people get so offended by wearing white but they do. It was talked about in my family for years when my mom wore a light tan dress to my cousins wedding. 🙁
Post # 80
Super cute dress, not for a MOTG!
Post # 81
mrsfry2015: You’re certainly right that it wouldn’t matter to many, but it’s a question of etiquette posed on the etiquette boards, so for that reason tradition (& traditional etiquette) prevails in this case. (Etiquette is an evolving thing, though, so maybe it won’t be such a no-no in the future!)
Post # 82
If I went to a wedding where the Future Mother-In-Law was wearing that I would wonder if she supported the marriage or not. If just doesn’t seem like an appropriate Future Mother-In-Law dress to me.
Post # 84
If you really love the dress, run it by your son. He will know if it will bother FDIL and if it looks too bridal. You can also reach out to FDIL’s mom and try to coordinate with her as to what to wear.
Post # 85
Of course you can. It’s a beach wedding. Nobody will mistake you for the bride.
Post # 86
Nobody ever thinks this. Not wearing white is about showing respect for the idea that white is considered to be the bridal colour . It not about being mistaken for the bride Sheesh!!
Plus, the OP is the Future Mother-In-Law……
Post # 87
No no no no no! And dont ask her, because asking her about wearing a white formal almost bridal looking dress shows almost as much about you as it would showing up tothe wedding that way. She will most likely be polite and say ita okay, when really its not and to even question it is offensive like you dont approve or want to have control of her and your sons day and her and your sons lives.
Post # 88
No! My mother in law wore solid ivory and I was not happy, especially when we were in photos together!