Post # 1
We are invited to attend a wedding towards end of the month, it’s in a nice hotel in town. There isn’t any specific dress code mentioned in the invite, it will be a sit down dinner. So I assume cocktail dresses and smart shirts+tie+pants combination will be expected.
I haven’t got any proper cocktail dresses seeing that we just relocated here, I have left it all at my parents’ house 10000miles away! I’ve got inappropriate super short party dresses, or long evening gowns. Didn’t know what I was thinking when I packed?!
Anyways, I went to Shanghai couple of months ago and got a qipao (chinese dress) tailor-made. It looks something like this (pic below), it’s slightly above the knees, short sleeves. Will this be appropriate? I know I will probably be the only guest wearing something like this because the bride & groom are non chinese, and guests will probably be wearing pretty cocktail dresses.
It’s quite common for guests to wear qipao to a Chinese wedding, but seeing that it’s a western wedding context, do you think it will be a ‘oh it’s a pretty & appropriate dress’ or ‘oh my god she sticks out like a sore thumb’ if you see someone wearing this? I just don’t want to upset /upstage / steal bride’s thunder.
p.s. I am my husband’s plus one, only met the groom but not the bride so I can’t ask her.
Thanks again bees!
Post # 3
My opinion you will stick out like a sore thumb but if you are that type that cares less what other think cause you are different then go for it. I wouldnt wear it though.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I don’t think it would stick out at all, so long as it’s at least as long as the one in the photo I think it’s completely approrpiate.
Post # 6
To me, it looks a little casual, and therefore could be deemed “inappropriate”.
You still have some time until the wedding, I would go out and buy yourself a new dress. Because it is the end of summer (and coming to the end of wedding season) many dresses which are designed to be worn to weddings are being discounted for the end of the season, so you can find some great deals.
Post # 7
I think it’s perfectly appropriate! What material is it made out of, though? That might be a big factor, if it’s cotton versus satin or silk?
Post # 8
I just got my grandmother’s that she wore to a military ball… not asian/chinese- and it is gorgeous. i think that is modern looking enough to blend, and could also be a good conversation starter since you won’t know everyone 🙂
Post # 9
I think its adorable. I love it. WEAR IT!
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I agree that depending on the fabric, it’s fine. Give a shopping trip a try, and if you can’t find anything, just wear what you have. Really, I don’t think anyone will care. It’s not offensive at all.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
I say go for it. I think it’s super cute!
Post # 12
i would pair it with nice fancy jewels, hand bag, heels and shawl.. i think if you are comfy and love the dress then it should be fine.. heck ive seen tons of pics with people showing up in tshirts/polos/jeans..i think the fact that you are dressing up is fine!
Post # 13
I think with some accessories like a bracelet or scarf, it would be fine, as long as it’s no shorter than the one in the photo. I don’t think you’d stick out like a sore thumb. It’s definitely not a common look at Western weddings but uncommon is not a bad thing.
Post # 14
I think it would be lovely!
Post # 15
@juliette.eliza: Mine looks similar in terms of cut & pattern, though my flowers are in different shades of grey, sleeves are longer and skirt length longer too.
@jo.lee: material is silk
Post # 16
I love it… I always think this is a ‘classy’ kinda style to wear for any occasion.. but that’s just my humble opinion!