Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
Hello Bees! I have my baby shower this weekend. I am pretty excited! Here is my question: I currently own ONE maternity dress. I was very much hoping to wear it to my shower this weekend. However, I have already worn it one other time back in November…to a memorial service for SIL’s late Father. Now, the the dress doesn’t SCREAM ‘funeral’ or anything, but I am worried that even if I dress it up with a few softer and more fun accessories it will still look too drab OR people will remember I wore it to that more somber function.
Here is a photo of the dress (obviously with a model and not me). I still have time to go shopping for a new dress, but as I am already 32 weeks along (33 weeks tomorrow) I am hesitant to spend any more money on clothes…but I am willing to if that would be the most ‘appropriate’ action.
Or am I just overthinking this whole thing and the dress is fine?
Post # 2
snowflake8 : You are WAY overthinking it! No one will remember and even if they do they aren’t going to think “oh gosh how poor taste”. Wear it or treat yourself to a new one but either way – don’t stress too much about it. 🙂
Post # 3
I’m impressed you only managed to buy one maternity dress. If you want to wear it I think its fine but if it were me I’d treat myself to a new dress.
Post # 4
I think you’d be fine either way. Treat yourself if you want, or wear the dress. If you want to make it look different, you could throw on a colorful open cardigan or shrug?
Post # 5
I think people who remember exactly what everyone wore to a funeral need to get a hobby.
I also think every pregnant woman gets a bye on wearing the same few items of clothing that fit.
Lastly, I think if you’re growing a human inside you, you can treat yourself to a new dress for a fun heavily photographed event.
Post # 6
You’re overthinking it. It’s a cute dress. Wear it!
I get how you feel though. My husband’s father died in 2015 and I bought a little black dress for the funeral that I actually ended up liking quite a bit, but I felt weird wearing it after the funeral. I thought maybe my husband would remember and it would bring up bad memories or something. But I’ve worn it a few times since and he’s actually complimented me as to how nice it looks. He didn’t even remember that was what I wore to the funeral.
Post # 7
if you want something new but don’t want to spend the money, go to baby consignment stores or join a local fb mom swap group and post you are looking for a dress.
i bought most of my maternity clothes this way, barely worn, in great condition, and cheap!
Post # 8
It would be totally 110% fine to wear it again, but I agree with PP–this is a great time to treat yourself to a new dress for a very special (happier!) occasion.
Post # 9
It’s a pretty dress – I say wear is with fun colorful accessories. The only person who MAY have feelings about associating the dress with the service is you SIL – and I would be a million dollars she was way too preoccupied at the service to notice what anyone was wearing.
Post # 10
snowflake8 : I voted buy a new one ONLY because I think you should treat yourself to a little happy. 🙂
No one but you–maybe your hubby–will remember what you wore to the funeral, and even if they did no one would give it a second thought at your shower. I’m not pregnant but the dress I wore to my FIL’s funeral is one of my favorite dresses…I wear it often and I honestly don’t think anyone remembers or thinks of it poorly. If they do that’s their problem.
Take yourself shopping for a new maternity dress that you love and feel great in. You’ll be able to wear it again, and you won’t have to associate it with anything from the past either. Congratulations on your soon to be little one! 🙂
Post # 11
I’m firmly in the ‘wear whatever you like’ camp so your dress is fine. But if you’d feel better wearing something new- or new to you- you can prob get a cute maternity dress from a second-hand store cheap enough that you won’t feel guilty if you only wear it once or twice. Personally I love second hand stores- it’s like a giant garage sale and often find some cool unexpected stuff there 🙂
Post # 12
I would wear it around the house a few times. Just so that it feels more like a normal dress and less like a funeral dress. I think it’s totally fine to rewear the dress, especially if you accessorize it differently and change up the look.
Post # 13
snowflake8 : I have this dress too! It was so great over the holidays, lol! I got a ton of compliments- I would just brighten it up with accessories and makeup. Do a bright eye or lip, a fun shoe, or even a different color ribbon instead of the black belt. But seriously, this dress is adorable and will look great at your shower!
Post # 15
snowflake8 : Maybe a cardigan or a colorful pashmina? Or a statement necklace? I like the dress, and you could add some accessories to make it a little more festive.