(Closed) Can I wear this?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Jennhasfeet: exactly my point! Its 1 dress she can wear any of the other 364 days in the year.  

She has reservations about “the white in it”.  She said it not me…..If you have reservations, listen to your gut and don’t wear it.  Why buy something only to shamefully cover it up with something else and don sleeves.  

Gheeze….Just pick something else.

Post # 33
920 posts
Busy bee

I think your outfit is totally cute!! I agree with brideatbeach, your not in all white. I think it’s calssy and chic. And I really like the cardigan with it too.

Post # 34
365 posts
Helper bee

I wore a white, gray, and black dress to a friend’s wedding this year and received zero funny looks about it.  I think your dress with the black skirt is no where close to offensive.  If you think a sweater might be too warm (although Target and Express usually have some lightweight short sleeve options), I would suggest wearing colorful accessories, clutch, and/or shoes.  I found these necklaces on Etsy that I love and think would look great, all at different price points.  There are so many options out there!  I think the first one is my favorite for a more casual setting and the third necklace if you want to dress it up a bit.




Post # 35
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think people are possibly taking the no-white thing a bit far…I’d be terrified to go to some of these ladies’ weddings!

I’m super judgmental about people’s outfits, and looking at other people’s clothes is one of my main enjoyments at weddings (and I’ve been to 9 weddings in the last 5 years), and I’ve only ever seen one outfit (amusingly, worn by 2 people at the same wedding) that I thought was stepping over the “no white” line, and that was a TOTALLY white, frilly, beaded dress. 

Your dress is very cute, and I think it’s pitched well for a smart-casual wedding. 

I’ve seen lots of pretty dresses at weddings that look beautiful, and the base colour is white/ivory/cream/blush, but it’s got coloured flowers on it, or block colour borders or whatever. I’ve never heard anyone be annoyed/upset/snotty about it. At my brother’s wedding, by some weird coincidence, almost EVERY guest was wearing shades of gold/cream/cafe au lait, and the bride was in light gold, and all the photos looked amazing.

The thing is, lots of weddings are summer events, and lots of summer clothes are pale colours, or white/ivory with patterns on, or mixtures of white/ivory and other colours. I think it’s a bit harsh to expect all your guests to veto any dress that is partially white/ivory/cream. I’d also be a bit unimpressed if all my guests started calling me to approve their outfit choices – I have far too many other things to worry about!

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