(Closed) Can I write the guest's names on the actual invitation?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think it would just be easier to do the ___ seats have been reserved in your honor

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@cuddlz88:  I only addressed mine to mr and mrs OR the smith family if I was including kids. So far I haven’t had any confusion, but it wouldn’t hurt if you wanted to print it on your invite as well! 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In my part of the world, the people invited are (almost) always named on the invitation. I’ve never understood the reasoning behind not naming them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

While it is nice if guests understand that in naming them on the envelope they are the only ones invited… some people just dont get it or are very rude.  Ive heard of people just inviting their children along for the ride because they consider their children extensions of themselves.  I think if you are having a non traditional or informal type of affiar that you should be ok with the calls or emails to rsvp.  I’m sure however people will still not call or email and you will need to track them down!  I listed only the names of the guests… no plus one, no and guest.  And I also put adult reception to follow to make it perfectly clear so there is no confusion.  I understand this to be bad form but I really just don’t care, and no one in my family will think twice about it. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MeiFrancis:  +1 I think that is a better idea and they will know you have their table already assigned

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cuddlz88:  I wasn’t going to say this before because I assumed you were American, but it’s also common here to not include RSVP cards and stamps. I’ve been invited to 20+ weddings and I’m pretty sure I’ve never received a stamped RSVP envelope. For my own wedding, a few people wrote back an RSVP, but most people just phoned; and that’s what I do (phone my RSVP) when attending a wedding myself.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cuddlz88:  about your “these days” comment – I’m an older lady so the 20+ weddings I’ve attended range from the 1980s to now. But still, I don’t think stamped RSVPs are the norm here, certainly not in my circles.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Honestly, I doubt that will make it any clearer. If someone wants that invitation to include their kid and would ignore what it says on the envelope, they’ll ignore what it says on the invitation. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I wrote the names on our invitations. I think every invite I’ve ever gotten had names on the invitation? I’m Australian too.

Funny thing though, I just got an RSVP through our wedding website from my friend and the message says ‘Hope you don’t mind me bringing [girlfriend] along, we’ll be coming to Sydney together and she’s really excited!’ – even though I definitely remember writing both their names on the invitation! but only his name was on the envelope because I sent it to his parents’ house, so maybe he didn’t notice? haha.

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