(Closed) Can I….?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you’ve already said they could do it on their own, I wouldn’t now require them to do it professionally. $50 can be a lot of money for folks (just thinking of my own bridesmaid experience). I don’t suppose one of them is better at doing hair than another, who could help some others out? Or maybe you could show them pictures of what you were thinking of as far as updos go, so they know what you’re thinking?

Post # 4
10 posts
  • Wedding: April 2008

You’ve already told them they could do their own hair, so unless you’re paying for all of them–nope. I’d be rubbed the wrong way if I was told I was ‘required’ to get my hair done, when told before I could do what I wanted.

Post # 5
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I wouldn’t require it— It would probably end up like a pie in the face- and an extra $50 is an extra $50… so I would just kind of give them a few ideas, but remember, not everyone is going to look good in certain styles… so I talk about it beforehand. I did my own hair for my sister’s wedding and ended up with a half up half down style… she didn’t mind and the pictures turned out alright.

Post # 6
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2007 - Restaurant in Burlington

I agree with all the pp.  You will only upset them by saying one thing and then changing your mind.  If you really want them all to wear their hair up, for instance, then mention that.  but i think they should be able to do their hair themselves.  one of my bridesmaid’s got an updo at a salon, the other two did their own hair — one blown straight and the other curly and half up.  they looked lovely, and were comfortable.  you want your friends to be happy.

Post # 8
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

It can actually be a lot of fun to all go get your hair done together the day of.  Maybe you can offer to pay at least part.  I was in a wedding a few years ago where we all went to the salon the day of, and got our choice of mani/pedi, hair or makeup.  The bride paid for part and we paid for part.  I got my hair done, and was happy about that.  A couple of the maids couldn’t see spending the money on hair when that would be gone the next day, (and they had really short hair anyway) so they had their nails done instead. 

Post # 9
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

My bridesmaids have a lot of different opinions about what they do and dont want done professionally so I think what I’ll do is budget for "one service" for them.  They can choose whether they’d like to get either their hair, makeup, or nails done, and I’ll happily pay for one service. (I simply cannot afford for all three, but I really dont care what they look like, as long as they are comfortable with their look. I trust them.)  I know Mr. Pengy’s sister, for instance, feels like she can do a better job than a professional doing her own hair and makeup, so I’ll pay for her to get a nice mani/pedi.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is a tomboy and is more comfortable with having her sister help her, so I’ll do the same for her.  I bet my other two bridesmaids might like to get their hair professionally blown out so that will be their service, if they choose.  I know its tough to pay for all your Bm’s services, but I think its nice to at least allow for one, that way they can spend a little time with you at the spa/salon in the days leading up to the wedding, and they wont stress out too much if they feel like they are unable to do a good job with their own hair or makeup.

 If your BM’s are SPECIFICALLY doing their own hair to "save money" then I think you should do your best to pay for their services.  Dont stretch your maids too thin or they will resent you in the end.

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