Post # 1
I think I’m overanalyzing this way too much and might need some sense knocked into me! Here it goes:
I think I found THE dress. The dress that makes me swoon and feel glamorous and like a bride. I found it this past Saturday with my Mom and this Saturday, my Aunt and cousin (who is a BM) and my Dad are all coming to see it and the plan is to order it.
Sounds good so far… except one detail is driving me crazy. I always envisioned the white satin buttons down the back of the dress. The buttons on this one are crystals- which are so fun and I still like them- but somehow I feel lke I’m missing out on this one detail.
Am I crazy? The way the back of the dress is, adding the satin buttons isn’t an option (the glittery buttons only go down to the waist line).
Did anyone find their dress without something they thought was on their “must have” list?
Post # 3
My dress is completely different than everything I ever imagined getting. I pictured lots of detailing with a big ball gown with pickups. I ended up with a more fitted dress with a few flowers on it and one strap (which I never imagined). I say if it makes you feel gorgeous then it’s definitely worth giving up something like the buttons.
Post # 4
Do you have a picture of the dress? In my experience there is very little that can’t be done to make the dress like the one you’ve dreamed out. Couldn’t they alternate the crystal buttons with satin ones giving you the best of both? Or just replace the crystal with satin when you place the order? Not knowing the style of the dress it’s hard to say if they can actually add them down the length of the dress. My first dress (I ended up a 2 dress bride) didn’t have the buttons that I wanted but was able to order them to be sewn on during alterations.
If you love the dress as much as you say you should be okay with walking away from one small detail. Besides, you won’t see the buttons on the day of unless your back is to a mirror.
Post # 5
I don’t think you are crazy at all. I don’t understand why the seamstress couldn’t just switch the buttons out for you.
Post # 6
Do you honestly think that 10 years from now you’ll be looking at your wedding album sighing, “Great wedding, but I never did get to wear a dress with satin buttons down the back.”
They’re just buttons and you wouldn’t even see them (except in pictures). And I think crystal buttons are beautiful!
Post # 7
I don’t have a picture yet! But this is it:
Thank you ladies for your comments. Just writing it down made me feel incredibly silly and slightly neurotic for actually being concerned about BUTTONS. I really need to evaluate my priorities sometimes 🙂
Post # 9
For what it’s worth, it’s a beautiful dress, and since there’s not MUCH detail, I think the crystal buttons really look great on it. Plus, you won’t even be looking at the back of the dress once it’s on! Just pretend there’s satin buttons back there. LOL.
Post # 10
if the buttons bother you now.. they will bother you even more the closer u get to the wedding.. i do think the dress is beautiful but i think the glitter buttons are quite different from regular white ones and bit more noticable.. have u asked to have different buttons? i agree with noritake22 that a seamstress should be able to change the buttons.. this should be an easy job
Post # 11
I’ll call my consultant tomorrow and ask about the buttons…I feel like a crazy lady for even caring about this! Thank you all for letting me share my whacky thoughts with you 🙂
Post # 12
@PinkPinstripes: That is a beautiful dress! I think you should see if the dress can be made with the white satin buttons instead.
Post # 13
I did. I really liked buttons down the back, a corset back, or some kind of big chic bow, but I ended up with none of those. I love my dress and eventually let go of those details because they weren’t worth the trouble. I think it depends on how imprtant those things are to you. So many things seemed so important to me when we first started planning, but the closer we get to the wedding the less important they are for me. I’m letting go of things I thought we/I had to have, but I’m realizing we/I can do without.
Post # 14
It’s alright! You can have the buttons replaced, I’m sure. Sometimes visions shift a bit. I hated pickups and corset tops and I wanted a tulle ballgown. I ended up with a satin corset-topped ballgown with tons of pickups, and I couldn’t be happier!
Post # 15
Hmm, the dress is BEAUTIFUL!! I love it! Having said that, I don’t think you should change those buttons. The crystal ones really pop and go with the detail on the front. I don’t think satin buttons would look right on it. But again, that is just my opinion and I mean no disrespect. I don’t think you’re crazy for feeling the way you do. I mean we all envision our wedding gowns to have a certain look and if it’s important to you then it is and that’s that. lol But I don’t think satin buttons are going to even show up in your pictures and the ones that come with the dress really stand out and give the back of the dress a little special detail. But you have to do what you feel is right and important to you. You wouldn’t want to be obsessing over it and second guessing yourself the whole time. You should feel at peace with your dress decision! Good luck!
Post # 16
I think while it is really important to have exactly what you want as a bride, those crystal buttons look awesome on that dress. There are lots of dresses out there that have the fabric buttons, but the crystal ones are truly special and give this dress the edge over similar ones.