Can men and women just be friends?

posted 4 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Men and women can absolutely be friends, especially if neither is attracted to the other.  I mean, are bisexual people not supposed to have any friends?

That being said, I think people should probably be more honest with themselves about whether they’re attracted to friends, and position their lives accordingly. 

 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I have male friends.  DH has female friends.  We all manage to stay completely platonic and there are no problems, because we are all grown-ups.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Fiance and I both have close friends of the opposite sex and always have. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Absolutely think men and women can be friends. One of my best friends is a guy I used to date. Dh knows all about it and is fine with it, and the two of them regularly hang out, and I regularly meet up with my friend for meals and drinks without Dh. If you trust your partner, it’s a non issue. I would never date someone who told me I  couldn’t be friends with a particular person because our genitals are different.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Yes. I have male friends. My Fiance has female friends. Also, I’m bi.. Or rather, probably pan. So based off of that logic, I can’t have any friends. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

thesecondwife : Came in to say the same thing! Just because someone is of the interesting sex and has compatible personality enough to become friends, really doesn’t mean one will necessarily be sexually attracted to them!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

nativegirl9109 :  I have multiple close male friends, and my best friend is male.  We have been best friends for over a decade, starting from when we were teenagers.  I told my husband early on in our relationship that him trying to police this friendship would be a dealbreaker, and he’s always been fine with it (and is now very close with him too).  It’s definitely possible to be “just friends” with the opposite sex.

I also work in a small company with myself and my male boss.  We are often in the office just the two of us, or driving to meetings and dinners etc. 

I trust my Darling Husband and he trusts me.  If someone is trying to crack on to one of us, we trust the other to shut it down.

We do also keep in mind however not to disrespect our relationship in public.  For example I might call my best friend darl or love in a text (as I would a gf), but I would never address him like that on facebook or around other people.  I never want to give people a reason to gossip. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I have always had very close male friends. Nine out of ten times, they date or marry women who are my opposite as far as looks go, so I doubt they’re attracted to me romantically, and I’m sure not attracted to them. And Dh and I trust one another, so there’s no issue. If I could not trust my spouse to be friends with a woman, that would be a pretty scary relationship for me; being afraid of half the population is no way to live.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Yes. My best friend is a guy. He is close to my husband. I am close to his wife. His kids call me Auntie. My daughter will call him uncle (when she can talk, haha). If he and I were the last 2 people on earth, humanity would die off bc we are 100% just friends. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Yes it is possible.  Not everyone is out looking for a sexual experience with everyone they encounter that has different genitals than them. I have male friends and Dh has female friends mostly from work and we all talk about our spouses and general life things. It doesn’t matter what your sex is, if someone wants to do something with the opposite sex or even the same sex for that matter,  it’s because they want to. Having opposite sex friends means nothing for someone who is faithful and has no intention of doing anything wrong. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I boggles my mind that this is even a question for so many people. Like… Do bisexuals / pansexuals just not get to have any friends?? Lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I agree with the OP. I have yet to see a guy girl friendship where at least one of the parties wasn’t into the other at some point during the friendship.  

Maybe they were at first into the other person but it wasn’t reciprocated so they settled on friends. 

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