Post # 1
Hi, my father has been dead for several years. My mother cannot afford to pay for my wedding so my lovely fiancee is footing the bill. I still want my brother to speak for my side of the family on behalf of me. Is this inappropriate if my family is not paying? Thanks!
Post # 3
Of course! There’s no reason you can’t have your brother walk you down the aisle, give you away, give a toast, etc.
Post # 4
Yup! I think that is really nice you have a brother to step in for you.
Post # 5
It’s your wedding, you do whatever you want!
Post # 6
I think it would be really nice if he did.
Post # 7
Of course it’s ok. I don’t have a brother, so god forbid if something were to happen to my dad, my uncle is who i’d choose. I think women choose their brothers a lot, actually.
Post # 8
It’s totally appropriate. Money has nothing to do with who gets to speak at the wedding – that’s determined by who the couple want to have speak. It would be very touching to have your brother fill in for your dad.
Post # 9
I think that is perfectly fine! It has nothing to do with whether your family is paying or not, your brother can certainly stand in for your father 🙂 My mother’s father passed away when she was 10, and she had her brother walk her down the aisle when she married my dad 🙂 It was very special for him to be able to do that.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Totally fine! In fact, I’d ventiure to say that at least half of the brides on here pay for the wedding with their FIs, and most still have a family member walk them down the aisle. Paying for the wedding has nothing to do with honoring the family that raised you to be the person you are today.
Post # 11
First off, I’m sorry about your dad. ((hugs))
I think it would be totally appropriate and in fact very touching for your brother to stand in for your Dad on your wedding day. Just remember, that your father will still be there with you, even if you can’t see him. 🙂
Post # 12
Of course it’s appropriate – it’s your wedding! My father’s best friend (my godfather) will be giving me away.
Post # 13
I think this is totally fine. I lost my father two years ago, and my younger sister is walking me down the aisle! Anything you want or would be comfortable with is good 🙂
Post # 14
it’s totally fine. My dad passed several years ago as well, and my brother is both walking me down the aisle and giving the “family” speech.
Post # 15
Totally appropriate, it doesn’t have anything to do with who is paying. My father has passed as well and my brother will be walking me down the isle 🙂
Post # 16
@marycaulfield: I’m not sure what you’re asking? If you’re asking if its okay for your brother to make a toast or walk you down the aisle or whatever, then yes, of course its approprite.