Post # 1
I’m sitting here freaking out because it is set to storm for the next week in my area. I am thinking that marrying in a botanic garden in my hometown was not the brightest plan during May. Is there any way that I could make a church my rain option incase it rains? The reason why I wanted my ceremony and reception at the gardens was because they havea beautiful ceremony sites and a reception hall, but if it rains, I would be forced to get married inside the reception hall. I just do not like that idea at all because the reception hall is not that beautiful and is rather simple. I booked the venue mostly because of the ceremony site, which is outside.
Post # 2
You might want to check with the church first. We just got married in a church and I know their wait list was 18 months long. There are also a lot of things that we had to do before we were allowed to get married there (pre-cana, meet with the priest a few times, deposits, etc). May is a pretty busy wedding month so I’m not positive if they will have a slot open for you.
Post # 3
islandx0sunset: This exaclty.
OP, your rain plan can be where ever it isn’t raining. You have to look into it though. Churches are going to give preference to couples that are members of that church and are going to use the space for sure. Some churches will require that you complete marriage counciling and some denominations are not going to want to “just be a back up plan.” May is a huge wedding month, and you will probably fall pretty much to the bottom of a church’s priority scale when they decide which couple they will schedule to get married there on that weekend.
Your post didn’t make it clear if you were getting married this May or next May, but either way, I would start calling.
Post # 4
ruphiolis: You need to call the church first to ensure they aren’t booked. There may be another wedding for one. Two, some churches require you to be memebers or require that your pastor be affiliated with their church. If you don’t plan on having a pastor, this may present a new problem as well. Three, a lot of churches do charge for additional services in case there are cleanup fees involved. I know our church had a contract as well so we understood what we could and couldn’t do such as throw rose petals and what we could use to attach decorations. And lastly, some churches require marriage counseling and that certification presented to them.
Post # 5
How are you going to approach this when talking to the church? “Hi, I really want to get married in a garden and didn’t really have any interest in marrying in your church, but it might rain, so I need a backup plan, and your church isn’t as ugly as the reception hall of the garden, so…” ? You need to think about how you’re going to present it without looking disrepectful. Imagine how the clergy would feel hearing that you aren’t booking a wedding in the church because you want it to be witnessed and sanctioned by God, but because it might rain and churches are prettier. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a non-religious wedding or choosing a venue because it’s pretty, but I do think there’s something rude about having a church as a “back up” for rain when you would otherwise have no interest in a church wedding.