- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
and go figure, Natalie is #16!
and go figure, Natalie is #16!
When I was pregnant we were always worried that someone close to us would “steal” the name we wanted. As soon as we found out the gender we blasted the name EVERYWHERE. Then talking to my BFF we found out that she and her DH are considering a boy’s name that DH and I have already picked if we ever have a boy. She isn’t preggy or TTC, and I’m not preggy either. So nobody really has “dibs” but I did mention to her that DH and I had also chosen that name. In the end we may both just end up using the same name. But I wanted her to know that we weren’t “stealing” it, but that we had independently thought of it also. I guess I’m more afraid of needing to let others know that WE aren’t “stealing” a name rather than caring if someone else uses “our” names.
Seriously?? I hissy fit over Isabella, of all names? Sheesh, I know like, 3 or 4 little Isabellas!
I take a very lax view on this: everyone can name their baby whatever they want. Sure there are dick moves, like if you’re 6 mos. along and your best friend is 4 mos. along and you give birth first and steal the name she confided in you, but ultimately, unless your baby’s name is Autkcshqpd, then I think that the likelihood is that there will be someone else out there who’s chosen the same name. Why can’t that someone be someone you know? Also, I’d keep my expectations in check–I know several parents who chose what they thought were unique names only to have their kids start preschool with another little “Keegan” or “Lila” in the class.
If you’re concerned, continue to hold your breath and DON’T tell people what your baby name is until after it’s born. Chances are, if you REALLY like the name, it won’t matter to you if someone else chooses it. If someone else does and it bothers you, your love for the name will start to dissipate naturally and you’ll find another one.
I should say that im no TTC firstly and will be no means “hold” this name
I have ALWAYS wanted to name my daughter Emily. When i met my DH i found out he had a little sister that passed away a couple of hours after birth…her name was….of ALL the names in the WORLD…Emily.
I ponder now if it would be tacky to name my daughter Emily still one day?
My FI’s SIL had a boy name picked out ffrom when she got pregnant with their first daughter and so has his sister. They are both set on those names and they both had girls and his SIL just had her second girl last month. When I got pregnant they all told me the names they picked for boys so I couldn’t choose it. I, of course, found out I was having a boy in January. My Fi and I talked about names but the only one we agreed on for the first month was Nathaniel, the name his SIL picked. I told him she would be mad at us if we chose it, especially since she just found out she was pregnant again, so we had to find something else. We went and picked a name that no one else in his generation is ever going to have…or never that he will know about. lol
Re: taking names– I wouldn’t use a name that one of my siblings used, but other than that… meh. I seriously doubt my kids would have much interactions with my cousin’s kids so I don’t see that being an issue. Friends would be a stickier situation… if it was like a life-long friend and especially if they were local I’d probably not use it.
@JennyW1 well when i cross that bridge and if it happens to be a girl I hope my Mother-In-Law feels the same way (I will for sure ask first…but all the same!)
I don’t think I would ever use the same name as a close friend or pretty much any family with the exception of a family name that we aren’t intending on calling the child.
Pretty much every woman in my family uses the name Mary or Margaret when naming their girls. But none of them actually go by those names we all have other middle names we go by.
My FI’s oldest brother and his cousin have the same name and I think it’s a little odd. I mean after Future Mother-In-Law used it you would think her sister wouldn’t name her son the same thing. And then Future Sister-In-Law had a baby and named her son and her cousin ended up naming their son the same thing!
I think the only time anyone can legitimately say “We’re using it!” is when they’re signing a birth certificate…other than that, game on.
I probably wouldn’t duplicate any of my sibling’s children’s names just to keep from making things confusing but I wouldn’t care about duplicating anyone else’s.
Plus naming a child is a timely thing – the names you like might change thru the years (if you meet some really horrible person with a certain name, or a celebrity with the same name has a huge scandal), or your spouse may not like the same name.
Absolutely! I do the exact same thing and when I hear that they named their child a name I adored I get a little dissapointed b/c my goal is to NOT pick a very popular name. But if I really love it I won’t care:) I love the name Henry and my cousin named her son that…so it’s off limits. crap:(
i miscarried in January. i was only seven weeks so i dont know what gender my baby was so i never had a name picked out. but i love the name Olivia for a girl and my cousin has a girl named Olivia (she’s already 5). that aint gonna stop me. and if someone else gets pregnant before me and names thier girl Olivia i would still name my baby Olivia. i love that name. i think that you can do what you want. but calling dibs too early is not wise. Although calling dibs doesnt really matter.
I don’t know if it really matters or if it’s more of a family to family thing. My SIL has a neice born two days after her with the same name! Except her neices is spelled differently. I don’t think I would do this personally (unless it was to honor a relative), but I think if your family or friends and yourselves are fine with using the name then there is no problem with it.
DH and I can only agree on 1 boy name. We picked out names long before we were expecting and have stuck with them. However, a coworker of mine (I’m not close with her by any means, but I went to HS with her and she’s married to my neighbors nephew so I do know her) had a baby boy last year and named him the same name we were thinking of. Normally I wouldn’t mind using this name, as I’m not close with the women, but I know she is the type that would totally say we named our child after hers and say we stole his name. We’ve tried to find some other names, just in case that we both like but after all our searching it’s still the only one we can agree on.
I found out yesterday that one of my best friends is pregnant. If it’s a boy, she’s planning on naming him “William”, which is one of my favorite names of all time and was in the running for my son. I say “was” because our kids will grow up together, and this means that my son and her son would both be William. One could be Bill and one Will, but I would want Will. Anyhoo, best to just leave that one alone I think.
So what do you think of a family name? My grandmother’s name is Lillian and I always thought it would be neat to name my daughter Lily, then my cousin did. However we don’t really see each other much (3 times a year usually) and her daughter will be about 10 by the time we even start TTC. Is it ok to use the name now?
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