- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
My sisters and I have unspoken rules about that. It goes for other things such as, I called dibs on pearls for my wedding while my sister was planning hers! Yes, I’m evil, I know. But she didn’t get mad she just decided okay, if justeen is doing pearls, I’ll do sparkle. No fighting, no jealousy. As for the baby-naming goes, she and my Brother-In-Law have gone the opposite direction. Instead of voicing their favorites in case no one else takes it, they are completely keeping quiet about it because they are afraid of influences and reactions that would deter them from choosing a name they want.
Haha it is weird but names kinda can get “taken”. If my bestfriend chooses a name that I was thinking of, I cant really use the same name as her, cos that will be weird. Hopefully by the time I’m TTC i will have lots of great ideas that arent over used in my circle of friends
I probably wouldn’t use a name that was used by a family member or very close friend. The only gray area, I think, is kids of cousins- they would be second cousins so I’m not sure about that. Either way though I don’t think you can call dibs on a name…
I’ve never thought much about this, as it hasn’t ever come up with friends/family. Unless it were a sibling’s child, I wouldn’t care much about whether we were using the same name as a friend or cousin if it is a name we really want to use! Luckily, his brother isn’t even married yet, so we’ll be the first to have children and none of our friends are pregnant now, so we should be the next to have children. I wouldn’t care if somebody we are close to used the same name as us. I don’t consider it stealing-I would just think they really wanted to use that name, too!
We have a name held for our first born son. Everyone in my family and all of my close friends know not to dare take it. I’m not pregnant yet and won’t be for a little while, but for us the name is really important. It’s a family name and also the name of my twin brother who died as an infant.
We ran into a problem last year when a friend of a friend named her son our name. It bothered me because she specifically asked me if I had any picked out baby names and begged me to tell her. Once I did…bang! she named HER son that. It kind of stung my feelings a little, but when it comes down to it I’m not going to loose any sleep over it.
The Kid Carson Show (radio station) in Vancouver always jokes about “baby name theifs” they even have a little song about it.
I honestly wouldn’t care who else used the name. If I want to name my child a certain name, I’m going for it.
The good thing is that neither girl name either my husband or I picked out is even close to being common. Yuuki will probably be the only one in her class unless it shoots up in popularity.
The boy name I have is very common, but I’ve had it in mind for years, and nobody, not even my best friend (just an example, she named her son something different), is stopping me from using it.
I know the names that my SIL (brother’s wife) has in mind for when they have kids. None of them are names I even considered.
A friend’s Future Brother-In-Law just had a son and gave him his father’s middle name. That would be fine if it wasn’t also her FI’s middle name! And the rest of the family will get mad if my friend and her Fiance pass the name down to their future son.
Ok, I’m just gonna pop in here. I am NO WHERE near TTC. However, I have a cousin (male) who has 3 kids: 2 girls, 1 boy. His wife saw me and couldn’t remember if I was Sarah (my sister) or Meredith (me). When I told her Meredith she said: (not drunk, totally serious) oh, you’re the reason we can’t name any of our girls Meredith.
Moving on from awkward moment: I am NOT close with this cousin, like I haven’t seen him in like 4 years, never have met his childern, don’t correspond during holiday’s, etc. Apparently the reason is because he used to babysit for my sister and I when we were younger and he just has it stuck in his head that he can’t name his girls Meredith.
Not to sound like I don’t talk to my cousin, this is how we’re related: my aunt’s husband’s brother’s son. so basically just by marriage.
Edit: to answer the question: I think it’d be alright if they would name a daughter Meredith because we are not close at all. Biological sisters: no, fraternal sisters: ok (not ideal), close friends: no, not close friends: ok (again, not ideal), acquaintances: coincidence.
I think they sort of can. For example, my sister’s favorite baby boy name is Elliott. When she told me that, I thought, “wow, that IS a really cute name…” but since I’m married and she’s single, I think it really would be like I was stealing that name out from under her nose. Also, my favorite baby girl name was Charlotte for a very long time, but then my BFF named her baby girl Scarlett, and the similarity made Charlotte lose some appeal for me.
On the other hand, there are about a billion women with the first or middle name Nora on my mom’s side–the repetition hasn’t stopped anyone yet!
I will admit this has bothered me before. We have a 4 year old that we named Kaia, not a common name in our area at all, in fact I’ve never met another one. We wanted something different because I grew up with at least 5 other girls who have the same name as me. No problems until this summer.
FI’s cousin, who we see quite often because they have a 5 year old, had a baby and named her Maia. It’s not the same, but FI’s family are the kind of dorks (I say this lovingly) that will be like “well, now we have a Kaia and a Maia!” Even FI’s mother said it was weird they picked something so similar.
While this may seem childish, I feel like some of the “specialness” of our daughter’s name is now gone. And I, honestly, wouldn’t have a problem if my daughter were older or if they used her middle name. I think it also bothers me because I know no one in my family would do this, they know better. So yeah, I feel like a name is taken if someone in the family already has it. I call my daughter Miss Renee when we are around them now (I’ve called her this at home for years).
On the other hand, I worked with a lady who had a grandson the same age as our girl and his name was Kai, which I thought was too cute! Hopefully that means I’m not completely irrational. 🙂
Edit: I wanted to clarify, when I said: So yeah, I feel like a name is taken if someone in the family already has it. That doesn’t apply to families who decide to pass down names, like a grandmother, grandfather, or parent’s name. I just feel weird when two kids in the same family have the same or a similar name.
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