- 6 years ago
Im sorry, i dont know who else to turn to at this moment. As a few of you know, i was previously engaged after six months of dating, and i was completely head over heels for this guy, he broke it off because his mom told him i was white trash and no good for him. well we had been engaged for three months (together almost nine months at that point) when he left, and when i told my parents, they told me that they had never liked him. This appeased my anger with them somewhat. Let me explain.
When i first got engaged to him, i was over the moon and wanted to immediately plan out my dream wedding. I was under the delusion that my parents would be excited and willing to pay out thousands to make it happen. Reality: My parents looked disappointed when i told them i was engaged (because they didnt like him) and any time i mentioned anything to do with the wedding, they rolled their eyes and told me to shut up about it. After he left and the truth came out, i understood their reluctance to help with a wedding they didnt want to happen.
That was three years ago now, and ive gotten over him. He is only a memory now. Me and my boyfriend now have been friends for a long time but started dating thirteen months ago. We want to get engaged, but im still waiting on the proposal. My parents have told me repeatedly (and my sister, b-i-l, niece, nephew, grandma, grandpa, etc) that they love him and cant wait for him to become part of our family. They ask all the time when he is going to pop the question.
Well, i found out a few days ago that i can rent the park where we had our first date for free for the whole day. Well, the civic center is 400 dollars for a few hours, so i was ecstatic. Even though we arent engaged yet, i started planning out our reception and thinking of how to do everything i wanted in the park. I told my mom about it, while sitting amongst all my family, and she rolled her eyes!
She said, “why dont you wait until you are actually engaged before you plan a wedding? you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak!” Now, while it is true that something may happen to break us up before the proposal can happen, still, i thought since she now likes my man, she would be very excited to help plan our wedding. My sister had a very cheap, last-minute, do-it-before-the-baby-arrives wedding and there wasnt much planning involved so i figured since i am the only unmarried child she has, she would be happy to help plan my wedding.
I cant believe that no matter their feelings for the groom, they absolutely will not help me plan my wedding! Even my sister, who is to be my maid of honor, refuses to help. After the way they acted last time, i am not sure they will even help after i have a ring. I am planning a mostly DIY wedding, and i cant do it alone! I just want to cry.