(Closed) Can Someone Explain a Catholic Wedding Blessing Ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i haven’t been to one myself but from what i’ve gathered it’s like a shortened mass with no communion.  i havent heard it just called a “blessing” though so i would check with the priest to see what exactly he means.  normally you have 2 options: 1) full mass with wedding ceremony or 2) just the wedding ceremony part.  it’s much shorter than the full mass and comprises of basically the first half of a standard mass.  

as for the strapless or spaghetti strapped dress.  i would check with the priest with that.  mine said he didnt care as long as the dress wasnt tacky looking.  i had a friend though that after she bought her strapless dress the priest told her he would not marry them.  she ended up getting one of the jacket things to put on her shoulders and it ended up looking cute but it was just a REAL pain.  

basically i would call the priest and ask him.

Post # 4
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ Ms. Library – first off, we’re date twins!  Second, my Fiance and I are in the exact same situation.  I’m Protestant, he’s Catholic.  I’m not converting, so we’re doing a non-denomenational Christian ceremony.  I’m no expert, but when I looked into the possibility of Catholic ceremonies where one partner was a non-Catholic, everything I could find involved the non-Catholic partner agreeing to abide by all Catholic teachings regarding kids – as in making them (or avoiding making them) and promising to raise them Catholic.  We decided that wasn’t the right choice for us, so we’re not doing any Catholic ceremony.  I just wanted to throw it out there, because if that is a condition of your ceremony, you’d probably want to know beforehand so you and your Fiance could decide if that’s right for you.  And on the flip side, if you’ve found a ceremony where that isn’t a condition, I’d love to know about it!  We’re doing everything we can to honor each others religions, while still being true to our own beliefs, and if there’s something I missed, I’d be happy to learn more about it.

Post # 5
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think its called a “convalidation.” It’s not really another wedding ceremony. From what I understand, it’s just a “renewal of vows,” but one done inside the church. And since you’ll have just gotten married a week or so before, it’ll be fun to be able to say it again!

I wouldn’t wear a strapless dress. Since it’s not a wedding, you probably wouldn’t be dressed as formally and so a strapless dress might be out of place. Most Catholic churches don’t have rules about what to wear, but check with your priest or parish secretary. 

ChiChat – my priest never asked me that! In fact, I know a priest who told my aunt (who is Lutheran) that if something ever happened to my uncle (Catholic), she should have them raised Lutheran because it’d be better for the kids to be raised in a faith lovingly than begrudgingly. Talk to your priest if you’re really interested. The point (that I’ve always heard, anyway) is that you are agreeing to care for your children’s spiritual welfare, and to be intentional in it. 

Post # 6
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The priest who said that about raising the kids Lutheran is really skating on thin ice! That’s the kind of stuff annulments are made of! The whole point of getting married in the Catholic Church is to promise God that the new family being formed will be faithful. To the Church, it doesn’t make logical sense why you would want to be married by the Catholics and then not want to bring up your kids Catholic.

Post # 8
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve never been to a convalidation ceremony before (in fact, had not even heard of it until fairly recently).  Fiance and I are considering a civil ceremony first and then a convalidation…maybe.

Anyway, I found the following description of a convalidation helpful. 


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