(Closed) Can someone explain co-sleeping choice?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

@CEtoSAHM:  I’m curious about this as well. Doesn’t sharing a bed with an infant increase the chance of SIDS?

Edit: I realised that this wasn’t phrased accurately. I had heard that there is a correlation between sharing a bed and SIDS, I’m curious how strong of a correlation it is.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I *think* they do it because the baby is more willing to sleep next to/near a parent.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Many cultures show that it helps with bonding, closeness, but it wasn’t for our family. My daughter would not tolerate sharing space. As long as we wrapped her in the burrito she was all set. We never had to deal with sleep issues. I have no idea if it is because we didn’t co-sleep, all I know is that at 6 months she would lean into her crib whenever we walked by it and was sleeping through the night at 10 weeks (other than “I’m hungry” feedings).

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I had never heard of this until the Bee either and am interested in hearing more.  I know these threads can get judgmental and people can fling statistics at each other, but I’m hoping that doesn’t happen.  I’d love to hear some real stories & experiences.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m interested in hearing this too. I hadn’t heard about it until my nursing class where they said the most ( main stream) research shows it is safer to co sleep in those little bedside things as opposed to bed sharing, which most docs and or nurses would wouldn’t advocate because adult beds with sheets and blankets and pillows and soft mattresses aren’t really safe for a newborn.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think it was my post you were referring to.  🙂  DD slept in our bed until she was 11 months old, although many families who chose to co-sleep do so for much longer.  We hope to keep DS in our bed for a year, too, although we’ll change that timeline, if we need to.

We chose co-sleeping because it’s a choice that aligns with out parenting style.  My husband and I loosley align with the principles of a parenting philosophy known as Attachment Parenting (here’s a brief explanation of it).  In general, the idea is that encouraging a very strong “attachment” between caregiver(s) and child(ren) will allow children to feel more secure and confident in themselves and the world around them.  Co-sleeping allows caregivers to deepen the bond with their children, even during nighttime hours.  Also, personally, I don’t feel like my babies are ready to be completely independent at night during the infant stage.  Many infants want and need the comfort of their parents during regular intervals during the night, and I feel that comfort should extend beyond a simple change and feeding.  (Plus, to be perfectly honest, I like snuggling with my babies at night.  It’s a very cozy and intimate feeling to sleep next to your child and wake up to them every morning.  🙂

@batwoman:  When done properly and safely, co-sleeping actually reduces SIDS risk.  Countries where co-sleeping is a normal part of the local culture actually have lower SIDS rates than countries where co-sleeping is not traditionally done; and in America, the most common cause of death during co-sleeping is actually entrapment.  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My babies always slept better when they were in bed with me. I got a lot more sleep and it was more convienent to breast feed, so we stuck with it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Mrs. Spring:  Interesting, that actually makes a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing! I am a very deep sleeper so I don’t think that co-sleeping would be best the safest in my case, but I think sleeping with the bed attachment thing or in the same room is a serious possibility.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I’m not really sure about this – they’ve been running PSA’s in our area after three infants died over a couple month period due to co-sleeping. I’m fairly ignorant on all the choices, but I think having a bassinet in the parent’s room or doing something where the baby’s bed can come right up next to the parent’s but still be separate (if that makes any sense) would be something we would do over actually putting the baby in our bed. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@hisgoosiegirl:  Dirty Delete was in a bassinet for the first 6ish weeks, so always within arm’s reach for snuggles but not in the bed with us. We still did plenty of family lounging (it felt like she didn’t leave our arms for the first year), just not when both Darling Husband and I were sleeping.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@KatyElle:  oh, I definitely think we’d be holding baby all the time, but yeah, both of us sleeping and having the baby in the bed too (and not in an attachment thing) is not something I’d be ok with. I tried to stab Darling Husband with my index finger during a vivid dream, no baby needs to be near for my sleeping antics!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

With DS I did not co sleep with him in my bed but he was in a bassinet right next to my bed till he was about 3 months old. This was just easier as far as breast feeding and dealing with him waking at night.  With this LO (coming in Oct) we will do the same thing. Bassinet until we feel he/she is ready to be moved to the nursery.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@hisgoosiegirl:  Oh I know, I do full alligator rolls as well as talk and laugh in my sleep!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why did you decide to co-sleep (or share the same bed or room) with your baby?

My baby (now almost 5 years old) just cried too much everytime we put him into his bassinet.  I just couldn’t stand hearing him cried. 

Also I breastfed him and he woke up every 1.5 – 2 hours to nurse so it’s easier for him to co sleep with me so I didn’t have to get up and lose a lot of sleep.

How long did you co-sleep for? Are there certain benefits to the baby if you co-sleep that they otherwise wouldn’t get?

We co-slept until he’s about 13 months and then we tried to put him to his own crib (trust me it’s tough!).  I was still nursing him at that time to it’s quite tough for me as well.

I don’t really see any benefit of co-sleeping with him (but I do see tons of benefits of nursing him).

I wouldn’t recommend co-sleeping if you can because it’s difficult to break the habits. 

 

 

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