A child needs to learn to self soothe whether it be while trying to sleep or other wise. No co sleeping is not the “”by the book” thing to do I guess.
My nephew is 5 months older than my daughter. My nephew went from the bassinett in my sister’s room, to his crib at 2 months, to his toddler bed and never had an issue.
My daughter on the other hand… She was a preemie and had breathing issues from the time she was born. So we bought this like $90 monitor that was supposed to alarm if she stopped breathing-it just did not seem work all that well. I had EVERY intention of making her sleep by herself! When I was a baby I guess I would scream until I made myself sick-my daughter did the same.
So after a week of it I was so exhausted and depressed, I would feed, burp, change her-all that stuff, and she would lay in the crook of my arm with my arm wrapped around her. This was this way until she was 8 months old. We moved and she had her own room, so I put her crib in there. She slept in there until she was about 13 months & then she started to climb out. This scared me sooo bad!! After the 2nd time of this happening I got rid of her crib. So I bought a toddler bed for her to sleep in and she refuses to sleep in it, even though it is the same mattress.
Fiance and I only get to sleep in the same bad maybe once a week (he works midnights and doesn’t go to sleep until late morning-mid afternoon). So now we either rock her or she falls asleep and we move her to her bed. Within 2 hours at most, she is in our bed. Definitely not the way I planned, but you have to make it work for you. It’s just you and maybe you SO. You have to sleep somehow.
I slept with my parents until I was 3 and then on their floor next to my mom until I was about 9. then I had to share a room with my sister, so I never really slept in a room by myself until I was about 14? So this is not the way I wanted it to be for my daughter.
Few things: (and I’m not trying to call anyone out or hurt anyones feelings)
Somone that doesn’t have kids, as much as they think they can/want to understand-just can’t. I’m not trying to sound mean, but it is just not possible. If you haven’t raised a child, you don’t understand, fully, what it is like to do so.
Like another Bee said-this is extremely common! It’s not something that is unheard of. I know very few people who have done it “by the book”-my sister was the first person we know actually.
Definitely try the co sleeper if it comes down to having the baby in bed with you, I wish they were so popular when I had my daughter- definitely would have had one.
A doctor is always going to tell you what they have learned-what they practice in their own home, may be a very different story-trust me, I’ve witnessed it.
Like I said, its your home, your life, your child-no one else’s. You can listen to advice, stories, risks, tips, you have to make it work. Good luck!!