Post # 1
Groom’s cakes must be a regional thing because I’ve never heard that term until recently or been to a wedding where there is one. It’s a special cake the bride gives the groom in addition to wedding cake? Or groom picks his own? Do people try one or the other or get a slice of each?
I don’t know what a money dance is either, but I guess that’s a different thread.
-Confused New England bride
Post # 3
ive always heard of having a grooms cake, and didnt realize it was regional thing until i joined the hive. apparently its more of a southern tradition. sometimes the groom picks and sometimes its a gift from the bride. my FI doesnt eat cake, so instead of a grooms cake, im making a bunch of key lime pies for him. im kind of hoping people wont be greedy and will have a slice of one or the other, not both.
ive read about the money dance too. i have to say im not a fan, but to each their own.
Post # 4
I think the Groom’s Cake is primarily a southern thing, or at least it routed from there. Probably the most famous example of it is the armadillo groom’s cake from Steel Magnolia’s. I’ve never seen it in real life or known of anyone who has done one, but my guess is that the bride gives it as a gift to the groom and it’s themed as one of his interests or something that relates to him. I think you treat it like the other cake, except he cuts it. People get a slice of that and the wedding cake.
I have seen the money dance and it was actually fun and the bride & groom. The wedding I went to, the DJ played a few songs and the guests paid money (any quantity) to dance with the bride and groom. The two bridesmaids had aprons and they would collect the money for the b & g. Some have it where the guests give the money directly to the b & g. I think it lasted two or three songs and was good fun. And they made a couple hundred dollars!
Post # 5
I second what the previous poster said — I’ve read that a groom’s cake is a southern tradition, and it’s generally a gift from the bride or it’s a cake (usually chocolate or red velvet) that the groom selects. We had one, and my husband chose a “Jabba the Hutt” shaped cake because he’s a big Star Wars fan. My brother-in-laws all had groom’s cakes that reflected their hobbies or interests (fishing and the Arizona DiamondBacks). We had 100 guests and ordered a total of 130 slices of cake (75 brides cake, 55 grooms) — we figured most people would have 1 slice and the few with sweet tooths might have 2.
I hadn’t heard of the money dance until our DJ asked if we wanted to do one. From what he described, it’s a segment during the reception where guests pay a small amount of money to dance with the bride. He said that it tends to be a family or cultural tradition. Since it obviously wasn’t a family tradition of either mine or my husband’s we skipped it.
Post # 6
I had looked this up a couple weeks ago bc I wasn’t sure myself…I found this description and loved it!
When many people think of the groom’s cake, they picture that quirky red velvet armadillo from “Steel Magnolias.” Often, their second thought is, “why would I want that my wedding?” In reality, though, the groom’s cake is a deeply-rooted Southern custom, every bit as traditional as the explosion of wedding cookies you find at many Western Pennsylvania weddings — and it doesn’t have to be an armadillo.
According to superstition, any single woman at a wedding should go home with a slice of groom’s cake and sleep with it under her pillow. That night, according to legend, she’ll dream of her future husband. Whether or not the folklore holds true, it seems that the old Southern tradition of the groom’s cake is making a comeback — not only in the South but in metropolitan areas all over the nation, where designers are whipping up elaborate confections that reflect the groom’s interests in a dramatic and memorable way.
Post # 7
I don’t get the point of a groom’s cake. Isn’t the wedding cake the bride and groom’s cake. I really think it’s a waste of money.
Post # 8
For us, it allows us to have two cake flavors. The wedding cake will be lighter (white cake with lemon filling) and the groom’s cake will be rich (chocolate on chocolate). Obviously you can have multiple flavors within one cake but I like having the two different cakes. It’s a family tradition for us as well, and just allows the groom to have something distinctly him when the wedding is usually all about what the bride likes. My groom’s cake is going to be the Mizzou logo.
Post # 9
I’m in Australia and only heard of groom cakes via American wedding blogs. To me, it seems a little silly. Its like a birthday cake – some are really odd like ski boots?! I mean yeah maybe he likes skiing but what does it have to do with weddings? My fiancee loves transformers but he wanted to incorporate it discreetly so that only we and other nerds would get it. Instead of a groom’s cake he is getting transformers cufflinks. For the wedding cake we are having cupcakes (which he really wants) and i’m picking my favourite flavour and he gets to pick his favourite. You can include your fiancee in the wedding, he doesn’t need a cake to feel special!