(Closed) Can someone explain this?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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983 posts
Busy bee

Let’s face it, men are retarded.  They don’t think clearly.  He’s probably, #1, nervous, #2, waiting for the perfect moment, #3, can’t figure out what the perfect moment means. 

No worries. It will happen. Be patient.  My Fiance was a nervous wreck. He knew I’d say yes, but he was still nervous.  Men are strange creatures. 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I can totally understand!  My SO has been sitting on the ring now for over 3 months, we started the whole ring shopping process back in August last year.  He’s a huge car guy so last night I finally said to him “it’s like me buying you your Camaro, putting it in storage, you knowing it’s in storage and even which storage unit but me not giving it to you for months on end because I want it to be a surprise.”  But I think next time it comes up I’m going to use your statement and ask him how he’d feel if I waited months to answer because I want it to be a surprise.

I understand that he wants complete control of the proposal but really what the heck?  I’ve been living my life for the last 3 months going is today the day?  It’s taken all the enjoyment out of getting engaged at this point because I’m actually growing a little resentful towards him.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

With the way the fantasy of a “perfect” proposal is emphasized in our society, I think a lot of men want to get the ring purchased and then find or put together what they imagine their girlfriend has been dreaming of.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

@beeeforeigocrazy  Well, we are 38…I’ve been married before…so I don’t think that has anything to do with it.  Doesn’t matter, men still get nervous about these things.  He told me how he felt about everything from the time he purchased the ring until the time he gave me the ring and how he felt for the entire evening after he gave me the ring.  So, yes, I don’t think age matters. LOL

 

Post # 13
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437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@beeeforeigocrazy:  ooooo you get all pissy like I do when I’m fed up with waiting…love it!! Don’t have much advice, as obviously I’m still waiting too. Just don’t really put your foot up there 😉

 

@GonnaBeAFind:  My SO is also a car guy, and since mine hasnt actually bought the ring (as far as I know) but we went looking almost a year ago (!!) I used a similar analogy. I said it was like if I had the means to buy him his favorite car, and I asked him what color he wanted, what interior he wanted, what size rims he wanted… And then didn’t do anything about it for over a year. Oh, and in the mean time hes not allowed to look at any more cars (“what if you change your mind about what you want”) and you also “have to stop talking about it or youll ruin the surprise” (um, what surprise? Now its just a sick game!) And he got a look like “oh… I get it now.” So hopefully it will be sooner rather than later! Good luck to you too!! 

 

Post # 15
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@beeeforeigocrazy:  Maybe something happened and he’s questioning his decision. Maybe he got cold feet, or something happened with work that made him feel the need to hold off until things settle down. Relax, if it’s going to happen it will.

Post # 16
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t understand, did he returned the ring? :S

 

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