(Closed) can someone shoot me please?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

…um are you guys already married? Your date was May 1, 2011.

Post # 10
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mrssquishy: What has Mr. Squishy’s reaction been to all of the things said by his family? Have you talked to him about how you feel yet?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sorry that you going through this.

I second the pp who said you should talk to Mr.Squishy about this.

There must be something going on that you aren’t aware of or maybe his family is affraid of “losing” him.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That is terrible.

I honestly don’t know what to say because I really don’t know the exact details about what has happened.

What I would do is write them a letter or sit down with them (if they are reasonable enough to listen without fighting) and tell them that you care very much for Mr.Squishy and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him. And that the only way things can get better is that if they give you a decent reason why they hate you.

If they cant give you one even after asking them nicely, then I would just leave the ball in Mr Squishy’s hands. If he loves you and wants to be with you, nothing they say will change his mind.

He should also ask them to be respectful of your relationship and be polite to you (not insult you to or behind your back).

Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mrssquishy: hmmm, I’m sure this has a lot to do with the specific dynamics of his family, but it seems highly unusual (and rude i might add) to insult you directly in your presence with him standing there.

I can understand that he is trying to avoid causing conflict with his family, but by allowing them to say these things about you, he is sacrificing the happiness of your relationship. He needs to defend you to his family, the two of you must be a united front.

I would recommend that you let him do the majority of the talking with his family, theire behviour indicates that they are threatened by your entrance into his life and worry that you will be “replacing” them in a way. It might help for him to have discussions with some of the family members one on one to find out why exactly they feel that you are not right for him. Then he can address their concerns. If they can’t specify reasons, you may have to distance yourself from them. .find a new place to live etc. Don’t allow them to have control over the future of your relationship.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

There is obviously things you arent telling us. Nobody is perfect all the time. So there has got to be a reason they are saying these things. Justified or not. I would sit down with him, talk about how you guys are going to handle this and then sit down with his family. You aren’t going to get rid of them after the wedding so it’s not going to get any better unless you find a way to make it better now.

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