Post # 1
I have only flown once in my life. A one hour flight to Baltimore when I was 13. I don’t remember a whole lot of the flight but I know I was a bit scared then. Fiance and I finally booked our honeymoon last night. I made sure to get a flight with short layover. Problem is,ever since booking the flights I’ve been so anxious all day and even had a bad dream last night about flying. I have anxiety issues in everyday life but knowing I will be on a plane, in the air with no control over my situation scares the living shit out of me! My fiance has flown tons and tons of times so he is calm but I am a wreck!
My Dr. gave me a valium Rx and a Propranolol(?) Rx to help if I need it. Any other ways to calm me short of coming to my house and just smacking me? lol
Post # 3
@candief: I can’t, sorry. I have a terrible fear of flying. Being medicated is the only thing that works for me. SO, at least you aren’t alone!?
Post # 4
What about reading a book? http://www.amazon.com/Flying-Without-Fear-Duane-Brown/dp/1572240423
My FH occasionally takes Xanax for flights and it works well for him.
Post # 5
I have a fear about flying too.. I hate taking planes anywhere and I will avoid it if I can but sometimes you have to do it.. I took a trip to San Francisco and its a 2 hr flight from where i livr but we had a layover so it was 2 hrs to Salt Lake City, Utah and then another Hr and 40 mins to San Francisco., almost a total of 4 hrs to get there.. I brought magazines, to look at and read and ipod with head phones..it helped me out.
Post # 6
You know how they always say it’s safer to fly than to drive? It really is. Take a look at this chart:
It is WAY more likely to be involved in a fatal car crash than in a fatal plane crash.
Then there’s also the control factor:
“Researchers in psychology like Paul Slovic and Baruch Fischhoff have found that when we have control (like when we’re driving) we’re less afraid, and when we don’t have control (like when we’re flying) we’re more afraid. That probably explains why, in the first few months after the 9/11 attacks, fewer people flew and more people chose to drive. Driving, with its sense of control, feels safer. Studies at Cornell and the University of Michigan estimate that between 700 and 1,000 more people died in motor vehicle crashes from October through December of 2001 than during the same three months the year before.”
So the reason you feel afraid is because you’re not in control. I can totally relate — I am less afraid driving on the highway as the driver than as the passenger. I don’t like flying, but I calm myself with these statistics and facts. You will be fine!!!
Post # 7
It’s funny, I was scared to fly until I was about 17, but I loved flying until last year. Nothing in particular happened — I think I’ve just been a ball of nerves. I’m actually getting on a nine hour flight in the morning and I’ve been having anxiety about it all week.
Post # 8
@candief: I also have anxiety issues, but I love flying. The only time I ever get nervous is if I’m afraid I won’t make my connection due to delays. I’ve had some pretty shitty experiences (including spending the night in both the San Francisco International Airport [completely alone] and spending the night [with my fiance] in Chicago’s O’Hare Airport due to canceled flights) … And I still prefer to fly. I usually find it pretty relaxing, to be honest.
I don’t have any words of wisdom other than to let you know that I’ve flown literally hundreds of times (including internationally), and I’ve always felt very safe. I hope you’re able to enjoy your honeymoon … Please don’t stress so much! (I know it’s easier said than done.)
Post # 9
I don’t have a horrible fear of flying but I don’t like turbulence so sometimes that can get me worked up quite a bit mid-flight. As @peachacid: said, it is a mainly a control thing. I have the same issue when I am not the one driving…down the side of a mountain (for example, I’ve driven down Pike’s Peak fine but have had anxiety when others were driving down) or in the rain/snow.
I haven’t gone so far as to get pills but I find a glass of red wine or two helps me greatly. Also having something to do like reading, listening to music, or playing games on a mobile device.
Post # 10
@remijp: Thats not a bad idea! Thanks!
@kes18: Thanks ladies! I’m glad I’m not alone! I tend to overthink things and make it worse! lol
@peachacid: This is the exact chart Fiance showed me this morning! I woke him up almost in tears because I was freaking out! Maybe I should blow the chart up and hang it in our room? 🙂
Post # 11
@peachacid: Whoah, doesn’t that table say just the opposite?
1.3 auto deaths per 100 million miles, versus 1.9 plane deaths per 100 million miles. And that’s when they fudge the data by excluding 9/11. In other words, there are only more car deaths because cars are used more.
I think a more meaningful table would be to compare interstate auto travel to interstate plane travel, and I’m sure the latter is safer. At least here in Australia, the majority of fatal accidents are on country roads, so driving through the country is less safe than driving around the city (where I can’t go very fast).
Anyway, OP, I just close my eyes and relax (and sometimes pray) during takeoff and landing. I take a “just do it” approach – I’m in there, so I’m doing it… oh that’s it… that wasn’t too bad.
Post # 12
Awww, don’t be scared! I know it’s stating the obvious, but just remember that planes are designed to fly. They aren’t just going to fall out of the sky. Even if, in some rare and bizarre incident, both engines fail, the plane will coast/glide back to the ground. Hell, a plane only needs 2 engines for take-off. After that, it can fly using just one engine.
I’m an aerospace engineer. I’ve done the math and studied the science and it’s all solid. It’s not like the plane is operating on some edge where if you make a small mistake the plane will come crashing down. The flight envelope is large. You trust the engineers to build you bridges, sky scrapers, boats, cars, houses, etc., you can trust them to build you a plane and fly. The same laws of physics apply. =)
I know you’re worried about not having control, but keep in mind that commercial jets are mostly flown by computers. And the computers are going to do a MUCH better job than you or any one else.
And if you’re still worried, sit by the wing – it’s the stongest structural part of the plane.
Good luck and don’t worry!
Post # 13
Airplanes are checked and rechecked by engineers and experts upon every landing. We check our cars every 5000 miles, if even that, and we sometimes even do it ourselves to save on cost.
I’d trust the pilot who went through years of training and tons of tests, including vision 🙂
Post # 14
@candief: About the control factor, I agree with strawbs: I just tell myself that the pilot is much better at flying a plane than I am at driving a car. I took driver’s ed for one semester; this man or woman went through years of flight school and was good enough to be picked as a pilot for a major airline.
Post # 15
The meds will work extremely well. Next time you have a day off, take the valium so you can see how you feel on it and how the dose is (don’t drive on it!!!). It will probably make you feel better to realize how much it helps! Propanolol is a beta blocker, so it won’t necessarily make you feel relaxed but if you start to get anxious, it will prevent the physical symptoms of anxiety (elevated heart rate, sweating, etc) so you won’t really feel as anxious. It’s better for things like public speaking, so I’d try the valium first for flying.
Post # 16
Sorry it scares you.
My first plane ride was when I was 16. Flying by myself. Boy did I have fun!!!! The takeoff is the best. I like to look down and see whats beneath me. Its so beautiful up there!!
One thing I love is the people you sometimes meet. On our way back from our honeymoon, a man acroos the aisle had a ipad and he had the Packers game on. The whole section had a blast with that.
I hope you are able to relax and enjoy yourself. 🙂