(Closed) Can Teachers take time off for the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Is it really not possible to move your reception a week later? I know it’s not ideal when save-the-dates have already been sent out, but presumably your friends and family would understand if you’d just gotten a new job.

Otherwise, the time to negotiate this would be after they’ve made you an offer but before you’ve signed the contract. And I would not even try to ask for a full week.

Post # 17
175 posts
Blushing bee

Planning a sick leave might not work, what if the employer request the medical certificate? 

I would plan “worst scenario”, meaning could you still make it without the leave and with a lot of sarifices and not making the day “perfect”. For example, buy clothes now, do everything in advance. After school just go directly to the airport and arrive at your reception tired but make it work nevertheless?  Is there enough time for that?

If this bottom line would work, I wouldn’t mention it at the interview. Then when the time comes, you can ask for the leave and have more peace of mind, but if they refuse you will know you can still make it work. 


Post # 20
47420 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not mention it in initial interviews. I would wait until you receive a job offer then tell them about the wedding. Seriously, policies aside, there is no new learning happening the week before the Christmas break. The kids are practicing for concerts, going on field trips and doing crafts.

Post # 21
4098 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Like others said it totally depends on how flexible your admin staff is. My wedding occurred the first weekend of Thanksgiving break and my principal okayed me using sick days 2 days before the wedding and a day after I would have come back from break  normally. I had worked there for 3 years though and had only taken two days off that entire time too so that may have helped. I probably wouldn’t mention it in my interview. 

Post # 22
3350 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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Jane04 :  i think the real answer is to tell them before the offer. Yes, it might mean you don’t get the job – but it also might mean that they allow you time off. Teachers don’t generally get time off (summer is considered that time). That’s just part of the job that you accept. But many jobs consider pre-scheduled engagements. IMO, being upfront is always best instead of trying to get the time later. 

Post # 23
42 posts

Teacher here.  Based off the 2 different school districts I’ve worked for, I think you’ll be able to do this, but you’ll likely be taking some of the time unpaid.  I also think you will be better off if you can get a job in a bigger district–I currently work for the largest district in my state and the leave policy is better than when I worked for a smallish district.

Basically, we get a set number of “free” personal days, a set number of personal days where you are charged the sub rate (“pay for your sub”), and then additional days are “off contract” or unpaid.  More than 5 personal days in a row or any personal days stacked with a school break require approval, but the words “international” and “wedding” would work with every HR person I’ve encounterd. (Teaching in general is much kinder about “life events” than a lot of other fields it seems). I think when I worked for a smaller district, we had a smaller number of “free” days, and I don’t think there were the “pay your sub” days; it just turned to unpaid after that.

Don’t mention it during interviews, but take care of it as soon as you get hired.  

Another thought is if your area needs teachers that badly, see if you can sub instead.  You should be able to get work almost every day in a high need area, but won’t have an oblgation to take jobs on days that don’t fit your schedule.

Post # 24
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Sandals Barbados

The district I work for is pretty strict about taking time off and planning events, their thoughts are we have enough time off during the school year to plan for these things. However, if someone else plans a wedding that is out of your control and they allow for the time off. If you had this planned prior to knowing your work schedule they may be more accommodating. My mother is in the same situation, my April break is the week before hers and that is when I am getting married. She talked to the superintendent and explained the situation and he approved her week off before her vacation.

Post # 25
335 posts
Helper bee

I work at a private school and this would be allowed, however I would not get paid. Vacation is allowed if approved by the higher-ups, but only school-wide vacation is paid. 


Post # 26
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My sister is a teacher and any leave taken right before or after a holiday needs to be pre-approved and she needs to ‘pay the sun’s.  She does get 5 personal days to use and those pay the sub days can come from that.  I’d say move the reception or wait a year to find work.  If this district is desperate for teachers,  there might be a good reason. 

Post # 27
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m a NYC public high school administrator and it really depends on where you work. I recently had a teacher take off the week before mid-winter recess, and the week after for a total of 3 weeks for her wedding and honeymoon. She didn’t get paid though. It just sucked that we needed subs to cover her classes which is never great for the kids.

Post # 28
1246 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not a teacher but I have a couple of friends that are.  In the school districts they work, they would not be allowed to take the week before winter break off.  It’s blacked out and unless you or your spouse or parent is in the hospital, you better be at school.  Now they both teach high school and that’s the week they have finals (and their grades need to be in before winter break) so their districts are pretty strict.

I would not mention the time off you need during the interview.  Don’t give them a reason to not hire you.  I’d also question why the district is so desperate for teachers.  Where I live, there are literally hundreds of applicants for open positions.  It’s very hard to get a teaching job here.

Post # 29
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m surprised at how many people are saying they can’t take the time off! My Fiance is a teacher and we are marrying in two weeks (Memorial Day weekend), and he just requested that Thursday and Friday off and was approved with no drawbacks. The following week is also the last week of school. He is a new teacher to the school this year and everyone is aware that he is getting married that weekend.

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