Post # 1
My husband is the Best Man in a wedding and we recently got our invitation to the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner afterwards. It is a local wedding with the rehearsal on the Thursday before the wedding at 5:30.
Do I need to attend the rehearsal and the dinner or can I just go to the dinner? I would need to leave work early that day to attend the rehearsal. Would it be rude to just attend the dinner?
Post # 3
absolutely OK. There is nothing for you to rehearse.
Post # 4
I’ve done it with an ex. The bride told him to invite me to dinner. There was no need for me to sit through their rehearsal.
Post # 4
You can just go to the dinner, IMO. I don’t see any need for you to be at the rehearsal if you are not in the wedding. I wouldn’t want someone to miss work for nothing.
Post # 5
No, but explain. Say you’re unable to leave work but if it’s alright you can meet them at the dinner (essentially asking them if that’s OK- which I’m almost certain they’d say yes, of course!)
Unless… you’re IN the wedding somehow helping out or something in which case I think you should attend both.
Post # 6
No reason for you to go to the rehearsal if you aren’t in the wedding so going just to dinner shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 7
If you have no official role in the wedding, you do not need to attend the rehearsal. Just let the bride know that you will be attending the dinner.
Post # 8
I have a very similiar situation! My husband is a groomsmen, and this Friday is the rehearsal. They invited me. It is early as well (begins at 6), but I get out of work early on Friday’s so it works out with my schedule…only thing is.. I don’t really want to go to the actual rehearsal part! I plan to find a shopping mall nearby or maybe even a nail salon to chill out until the dinner part begins. I’m terrible =)
Post # 9
No need for you to be at the rehearsal since there is nothing for you to rehearse if you aren’t in the actual wedding. Just go to the dinner.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t be offended, especially if you’re not in the wedding. <3 I’d still talk to the bride though, just to make sure she’s on the same page and wont be offended.
Post # 11
Yea no big deal. We recently had an Out of Town wedding and Darling Husband was Groomsmen. I was on the invitation for the dinner but I didn’t attend the rehearsal. No need for me to be there and honestly I was happy I didn’t have to go; gave me time to get ready since it was at 6 pm on a Friday and we got held up in traffic getting there.
Post # 12
I;ve sat through a couple rehearsals. Solo. They other wives/SOs all showed up at dinner later. No one even gave it a second thought. Your fine.
Post # 13
I think as long as you explain that you had to work or whatever you’re doing, you’re fine. It’s on a week night, so they will understand.
Post # 14
I have done this before. In fact, I was invited to the dinner. Rehearsals are so busy, it can be extra hectic to have too many extra people. Trust me the happy couple might prefer that you just join them for the dinner.
Post # 15
I say you’re fine. You don’t have any reason to be at the rehearsal.