(Closed) Can the Best Man’s wife skip the rehearsal but attend the rehearsal dinner?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee

absolutely OK. There is nothing for you to rehearse.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve done it with an ex. The bride told him to invite me to dinner. There was no need for me to sit through their rehearsal.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You can just go to the dinner, IMO.  I don’t see any need for you to be at the rehearsal if you are not in the wedding.  I wouldn’t want someone to miss work for nothing.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No, but explain. Say you’re unable to leave work but if it’s alright you can meet them at the dinner (essentially asking them if that’s OK- which I’m almost certain they’d say yes, of course!)

 

Unless… you’re IN the wedding somehow helping out or something in which case I think you should attend both.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

No reason for you to go to the rehearsal if you aren’t in the wedding so going just to dinner shouldn’t be a problem.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you have no official role in the wedding, you do not need to attend the rehearsal. Just let the bride know that you will be attending the dinner.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have a very similiar situation! My husband is a groomsmen, and this Friday is the rehearsal.  They invited me.  It is early as well (begins at 6), but I get out of work early on Friday’s so it works out with my schedule…only thing is.. I don’t really want to go to the actual rehearsal part! I plan to find a shopping mall nearby or maybe even a nail salon to chill out until the dinner part begins. I’m terrible =)

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

No need for you to be at the rehearsal since there is nothing for you to rehearse if you aren’t in the actual wedding.  Just go to the dinner.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@OhBeeHive84: lol!

I wouldn’t be offended, especially if you’re not in the wedding. <3 I’d still talk to the bride though, just to make sure she’s on the same page and wont be offended.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yea no big deal. We recently had an Out of Town wedding and Darling Husband was Groomsmen. I was on the invitation for the dinner but I didn’t attend the rehearsal. No need for me to be there and honestly I was happy I didn’t have to go; gave me time to get ready since it was at 6 pm on a Friday and we got held up in traffic getting there.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I;ve sat through a couple rehearsals.  Solo.  They other wives/SOs all showed up at dinner later.  No one even gave it a second thought.  Your fine.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think as long as you explain that you had to work or whatever you’re doing, you’re fine. It’s on a week night, so they will understand. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have done this before. In fact, I was invited to the dinner. Rehearsals are so busy, it can be extra hectic to have too many extra people. Trust me the happy couple might prefer that you just join them for the dinner.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I say you’re fine. You don’t have any reason to be at the rehearsal. 

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