Can the bride dictate make up?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
3264 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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ladyartichoke :  Bet she is just trying to prevent anyone from wearing overdone, heavy, severe makeup.  We all know someone who wears that irl! Have also seen on a thread around here.  The op thought it looked good but it actually looked to many of us to be “too much”, almost like stage makeup 🙁  I would go with a shade darker than a nude lip but I would not take your mom’s advice to go further than that. 

Post # 32
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

For me a lot of it depends on the broader situation.  If she’s otherwise been pleasant to deal with, I’d just go with it. As other people have said, nude isn’t just one shade.  I think a fair compromise would be if you searched for something that works well with your coloring before the day and show it to her. (I’d rather have my lips be lipstick I own anyway for touchups during the day.) I thought I couldn’t pull off nude until I went to Sephora and tried a whole bunch of shades to find one that worked the best with my coloring. I’ve found there is a whole range of nudes – some lean more pink, more brown, more orange, more mauve, and some are darker or lighter.

Post # 34
165 posts
Blushing bee

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holisticbabe :  

Exactly! I love all my friends and would want people to feel comfortable with their appearance but at the end of the day shouldn’t your friend be willing to no love your makeup for one day if it means the Bride can love her photo forever? There isn’t much I wouldn’t do to help make a friend’s day as perfect as can be. 

Post # 35
3176 posts
Sugar bee

She probably means a “My Lips But Better” shade. I can see a bride dictating this for me. She’d be like, “I see those crazy ass colors you love to wear. Don’t.” If you don’t have one, Almay has a smart shade line that has a nude (and red and berry) based on skin tone. I loved the one for my skin ton, but it wasn’t long lasting.

Post # 36
344 posts
Helper bee

Anyone I’d be willing to be a bridesmaid for, I’d let have their way and mayyybe I’d point out that a different tone would look better on me. My sisters and BFFs are are very relaxed though. 

However, I gotta say that I can be petty. If I was not allowed to get ready with the bride, I would not feel required to go with the nude look and would do whatever I feel looks best on me. I still can’t believe that is the situation! 

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