Post # 1
My fiance and i are very financially strapped. I’m considering having our reception at his house- a large Victorian place that with some decorating and rearranging would make a beautiful setting. But there’s no way more than 70 people could comfortably relax there. They live in the country with a very big yard, I thought we could set up a ‘tent’ and seating, hang christmas lights in the trees and maybe have a bonfire too. But it’ll be in February, so the weather may not permit, depending on tis mood :/ So can more people be invited to the ceremony then the reception? And is this acceptable? I think it would be more comfortable and warm anyways.. just close family and friends. What do you think?
Post # 3
Ummm… my feeling is that if you’re invited to the ceremony, you should be invited to the reception. Or else be very prepared to make sure those that are invited to the reception don’t tell the “ceremony only” people that there’s another party.
I’d be a little hurt if I was invited to a ceremony only. I’d kind of wonder why I was second tier…
Post # 4
I would think about it from the viewpoint of the friend that you would invite to the ceremony, but not the reception. As your friend, I would feel insignificant – that you want me to attend the ceremony, but do not feel strongly about having me there for the reception, where the majority of the celebration will happen. Another thing that your friend could feel is that you only invited them to the ceremony so that they would buy you a gift, without the reception.
My suggestion – only invite those to the ceremony who will also attend the reception. Otherwise, I think that people could potentially take it the wrong way.
Post # 5
This is a topic that will always warrant the same response…it’s a big NO NO! If you think it would be more comfortable & warm anyways with just close friends and family, then why do you want to invite the “B” list people to the ceremony anyways? It’s fine if you want to keep your wedding small and intimate because you are “financially strapped” but then you said it’s due to space so which one is it? Either way I guess it doesn’t really matter….it’s just flat out rude to invite some of your guests to only part of the wedding anyways.
Post # 6
i’ve been to weddings where I or friends have been invited to ceremony only, it is done lots here (New Zealand).
We are inviting people to a wedding dance which I suppose is similar, it’s not the whole day