Post # 46
Just thought I’d give everyone an update.
So as conversations still continued regularly with Peter over social media I spoke to my husband about how he’d feel about me having a friendship with Peter and my husband said I didn’t need to ask and of course he is ok with it. Peter and I also had the conversation and established boundaries and everything was laid out loud and clear.
We have also organised things that involve all off us plus other friends as well as one on one catch ups. I think if all parties are ok with it and understand boundries and there’s an open communication there is no reason you can’t establish new same sex friendships 🙂 xx
Will continue to keep everyone updated 🙂
Post # 47
You have a lot of responses, but I wanted to share my experience with my Fiance having almost all of his close friends be female. It seems that some of the responses indicate that a woman can view a man as just a friend, but the guy will feel a sexual attraction. Being in a monogamous relationship doesn’t mean that you are never attracted to anyone else, it means you choose not to view them in that way. I can say with 100% certainty that my Fiance is just friends with his female friends. For years, he had two female roommates, one of which is a close friend, and absolutely nothing happened. No feelings developed. He views them more like sisters. He’s made numerous new female friends during the course of our 8-year relationship. Because we were long distance for most of it, I went for months without meeting any of them. I do not view these women as any different from male friends he makes. It’s a total non-issue in our relationship.
There are people in your life who are romantic partners and there are people who are friends – gender/sex has no influence. Men can absolutely have close friendships with women without wanting anything more than a friendship. To suggest that men just can’t control themselves is pandering to the “boys will be boys” attitude, insulting to the ability of men to make good choices, and putting it on women to be the gatekeepers of sexuality.
Post # 48
I would say absolutely yes. He knows things about me my closest female friend and even my family don’t know. My friendship with this guy has kinda slowed down since his girlfriend moved over from America to be with him, but I still consider him a close friend.