Post # 1
been going out with this guy for over 6 years on and off. mostly because I have personal issues I’ve needed to work on. and now I know I love him. but he’s thinking that we should just be friends. we both wanted to get married at some point to each other, but he’s hurting and I’m hurting… Was wondering your thoughts on salvaging the relationship.. especially since now he’s talking to a new girl “friend” and saying “I can have women FRIENDS, can’t I?!?!” should I just try to move on, which is what I’ve been working on a lot recently anyway? or should I try to show him that I’m on board with us and we can make this work? mostly my main issue is with wanting to be married and it not happening.. I guess I can’t force it, lol
Post # 3
Well if you’ve been dating on and off again for 6 years and he’s been wanting the relationship to continue, and you’ve kept ending it, I see why he would want to be just friends. I was in a position similar to this with an ex for 2 years. After awhile one gets tired of the break up to make up game, because let’s face it people like stability. I’d say that if he’s already talking to other women, your best bet is to end it for good. Maybe one day you two will come back together, but it does sound like the relationship is on it’s last legs, and breaking up at this point would be for the best.
Also, why do you want to be married? Is it just because you want to be with him or because you just want to be a wife? At this point he may be thinking it’s just because you want to be married, but not necessarily married to him. I’d back off of the marriage talk and let him see that the relationship is stable and you can actually be with him for awhile before breaking up, before even mentioning marriage again. That is, if you can salvage the relationship in the first place.
Post # 4
Personally, I think anyone who has an “on and off” relationship with someone should NOT be marrying that person.
Clearly, if you were in it to win it (i.e. get married), then you never would have taken a break from the relationship.
I suggest you move on and find someone you are truly compatible with.