Post # 1
We found a new, up & coming DJ who is driving several hours to perform at my mom’s wedding FOR FREE!!! I will give him gas money, but our budget is EXTREMELY tight. This is an incredibly casual, backyard wedding. The majority of our guests know we’re super strapped, especially since the soon-to-be groom lost his job last week.
Would it be completely inappropriate to make a “Tip Jar” for the DJ with a cute little sign advising the guests that tips are graciously accepted? Or to ask them to pay for song requests?
I just want to show my appreciation to him for driving all this way to make our day great, but I’m completely tapped financially………
Post # 3
I understand where you’re coming from but it would be really inappropriate to ask guests to tip the D.J. That is your job. Is there any way you can squeeze a bit of cash by cutting somewhere else?
Post # 4
I’m not really sure about that one. If he is willing to do it for free and gas money+ exposure and a good review, maybe I would just leave it. It really depends on your mom and her social circle, which you said was strapped for cash, so it may make them feel uncomfortable and blindsided.
Post # 5
Well if you put a jar out it doenst mean that guests have to tip it would be their choice. So put one out there. Maybe he will get some extra cash.
Post # 6
Ha! Unfortunately no. We’ve already cut everywhere we can. My mom actually almost called her wedding off completely when her fiance got laid off. I talked her out of it after a very tearful meltdown. I suppose he’ll just have to take the gas money & call it good
Post # 7
That’s kinda what I was thinking…… The people that want to tip can, & others won’t.
Post # 8
There really is no polite way or acceptable way to ask your guests to tip your DJ.
Post # 9
ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOT!!! That’s tacky, and your guests shouldn’t have to shell out money for a DJ at your wedding.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t do it. It’s true that they technically wouldn’t HAVE to tip the DJ, but they might feel bad not doing it, especially if they want to request a song. I don’t think it’s a good idea, honestly.
Post # 11
I don’t think so, especially if it’s a backyard bbq, no one would have cash on them. Plus it may not be his cup of tea to have a tip jar out, if people didn’t realize you put it out it may hurt his reputation, “Yeah the DJ was good, but he brought a tip jar with him” kinda thing.
If it’s important to you that he get a certain sized tip it’s up to you. Personally if I saw a tip jar in front of a DJ it would never cross my mind to put money into it, he probably wouldn’t make anything. He gets a good word of mouth review, free gas and gets to eat and drink for free. He’s not expecting money so don’t worry.
Post # 12
This is tough. Putting the jar out isn’t necessarily asking the guests to tip. But I think as a guest I might have a short “What the heck is that there for?” moment if I saw that. I would most likely think that the DJ put it out though, and then not think about it again the rest of the night. You know your friends best though, so I would go with your gut.
Post # 13
I would assume that the DJ set it out and wanted tips for requests.
Post # 14
No, I would say this is inappropriate. As the one putting on the wedding, you (/the couple) hired any vendors, so it would be your responsibility to tip them if necessary. Since this is someone doing this as a favor, maybe you could get (or even make) him a nice gift? Try to be creative about how to show your appreciation, but DO NOT ask your guests to do it for you.
Post # 15
I would not. Don’t offer more than you can afford. Surely someone is going to slip a little green into a card for you already? Can’t you pass that along?
Post # 16
Thank you all for your great insight! I appreciate the comments!