(Closed) Can we ask our guests to tip the DJ?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I understand where you’re coming from but it would be really inappropriate to ask guests to tip the D.J.  That is your job.  Is there any way you can squeeze a bit of cash by cutting somewhere else? 

Post # 4
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011


I’m not really sure about that one. If he is willing to do it for free and gas money+ exposure and a good review, maybe I would just leave it. It really depends on your mom and her social circle, which you said was strapped for cash, so it may make them feel uncomfortable and blindsided.

Post # 5
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well if you put a jar out it doenst mean that guests have to tip it would be their choice. So put one out there. Maybe he will get some extra cash. 

Post # 8
95 posts
Worker bee

There really is no polite way or acceptable way to ask your guests to tip your DJ.

Post # 9
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOT!!! That’s tacky, and your guests shouldn’t have to shell out money for a DJ at your wedding.

Post # 10
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t do it.  It’s true that they technically wouldn’t HAVE to tip the DJ, but they might feel bad not doing it, especially if they want to request a song.  I don’t think it’s a good idea, honestly.

Post # 11
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think so, especially if it’s a backyard bbq, no one would have cash on them. Plus it may not be his cup of tea to have a tip jar out, if people didn’t realize you put it out it may hurt his reputation, “Yeah the DJ was good, but he brought a tip jar with him” kinda thing.

If it’s important to you that he get a certain sized tip it’s up to you. Personally if I saw a tip jar in front of a DJ it would never cross my mind to put money into it, he probably wouldn’t make anything. He gets a good word of mouth review, free gas and gets to eat and drink for free. He’s not expecting money so don’t worry.

Post # 12
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is tough.  Putting the jar out isn’t necessarily asking the guests to tip.  But I think as a guest I might have a short “What the heck is that there for?” moment if I saw that.  I would most likely think that the DJ put it out though, and then not think about it again the rest of the night.  You know your friends best though, so I would go with your gut. 

Post # 13
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would assume that the DJ set it out and wanted tips for requests.

Post # 14
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No, I would say this is inappropriate.  As the one putting on the wedding, you (/the couple) hired any vendors, so it would be your responsibility to tip them if necessary.  Since this is someone doing this as a favor, maybe you could get (or even make) him a nice gift?  Try to be creative about how to show your appreciation, but DO NOT ask your guests to do it for you.

Post # 15
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would not.  Don’t offer more than you can afford.  Surely someone is going to slip a little green into a card for you already?  Can’t you pass that along?

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