(Closed) can we ban these words? Please?

posted 5 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I agree with you on trashy, but there are several situations I’ve seen where “tacky” is the gentler way to tell someone that there idea may not come across well.  I just searched tacky in the theasurus and the alternatives are worse!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Stace126:  “And I saw one thread where a user basically said that backyard BBQ weddings are “white trash.” And if you have allergies or a low budget and use artificial flowers, this apparently designates you, your wedding, and your loved ones as “tacky.”

Example? I don’t feel like I’ve seen this.  I feel like we agree here that people should have the wedding they can afford.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Freedom of speech, honey.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

seriously… lets start burning books too.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

To be honest, I think the censorship on here has gone far enough… (Can’t even call someone a drama llama anymore!). If a bee asks my opinion on something & I think it’s kind of tacky (cheap), she’s going to hear it in a polite way. The particular examples you’re giving just AREN’T polite. The delivery is more problematic than the word itself.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

I don’t believe in an outright ban on words. Other words that people don’t like will simply pop up in their place.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rather than ban words, I would like to ban certain attitudes. If you must express disagreement with a custom or practice, do it in a respectful way. After all the site policy says:

“Please do not post threads or comments for the sole purpose of criticizing, mocking, or otherwise disparaging others’ wedding, waiting, or nesting choices”

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

There’s a thread asking if Mexican food is tacky…as  a Mexican I find that highly offensive…but the responders mostly agreed that it was in NO WAY tacky so they handled it I guess.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ltcolumbo:  

@discodance:  

+1

I don’t really believe in banning/censorship and I don’t really find that many bees on here look down on weddings that a fortune wasn’t spent on.  Actually, I find that most of these weddings tend to be “budget” weddings – or weddings where the bees are actively trying to save money by picking cheaper alternatives and not spending a fortune and getting into debt if they can avoid it.  And, I find that the opposite is true – it’s almost looked down upon here if you do spend a lot of money on something (your e-ring, your wedding, etc) unless you preface it with saying that it was affordable and didn’t put you into any debt. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I hate the term trashy.  Hate, hate, hate.  But I’m on the fence in regards to censorship.  It honestly feels like you can’t say anything on this board anymore already.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re adults.  Do we really need to start banning words?  Give me a break.  If someone is afraid their post may draw some negative comments from readers, then perhaps putting it on a public forum is not appropriate.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Censorship/banning is not cool…but being respectful is…

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@discodance:  +1

 

People are entitled to their opinions. How they choose to express them can be a problem, but they can share them nonetheless.

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