- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I’m talking about the words “trashy” and “tacky.”
Let me start by saying that it takes A LOT to offend me. And I know that everyone is entitled to their opinion, and most often when these words are used, they are expressing an individual’s feelings on a particular subject. However, I feel like those words have become so overused and downright offensive towards certain situations.
Normally I wouldn’t suggest banning words like this, but on a forum with such strict rules about snarkiness and rudeness, I think it needs to be done.
I cannot tell you how many times my culture has been attacked and called “trashy” or “tacky” simply because it’s part of my Polish heritage to dance with my guests at my wedding and most of them OFFER to give me and my new husband money. If you don’t understand the dance, fine. But I don’t think anyone who bashes another person’s culture with words like these should be tolerated.
These words have also been tossed around casually to describe everything from people’s wardrobes to less than black-tie formal weddings.
Apparently wearing underwear with lines that may be visible through dress pants is “trashy.” And I saw one thread where a user basically said that backyard BBQ weddings are “white trash.” And if you have allergies or a low budget and use artificial flowers, this apparently designates you, your wedding, and your loved ones as “tacky.”
Really? How is this appropriate?
If I came across a thread where a user was displaying pictures of her black-tie affair in a giant castle with cascading flowers, antique limos, and strolling violinists and called it “snobby” or “showy,” I’d be ripped a new one from here to Siberia.
Yet it’s perfectly acceptable for people to demean others for being casual, fun-loving, quirky, or anyting less than pristine and cookie-cutter.
Is anybody with me on this?
Is there a way we can ask the moderators to ban the words “trashy” and “tacky?”