(Closed) Can we be the officiants at our own wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I love the idea. You may want to research the marriage laws in your state to see if its legal or ask a clerk at the courthouse they might know.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

um, that’s totally awesome. I hope you can pull that off!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s really cute!  However, I second the PP on asking/looking for laws.  Marriage Licenses have to be signed by someone who is legally allowed to officiate/marry people.  You might be able to get away with it if one of you have gone through the classes or w/e to marry people

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I quickly did a google search of California marriage laws, and one document said “Marriage by proxy is NOT allowed in California. Family Code, Section 420(a)requires the two parties, marriage officiant, and witness if applicable, bephysically present together in the same location for the marriage to beperformed.”

You should probably call the county where you are getting the marriage license from to clarify the rules.

http://www.cdph.ca.gov/certlic/birthdeathmar/Pages/MarriageLicenseceremonygeneralinfo.aspx

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

here is another suggestion. You could have a justice of the peace do a quicky at the courthouse then have the real ceremony how you want it. I am going to go this route since I am not religious and don’t want a stranger do my real ceremony.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that I don’t think it’d be legal, but you could totally get legally married before hand.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

this sounds so awesome BUT… i know in oregon you have to have an officiant and two witnesses, now there isn’t anyone where to verify that you had two witnesses and that they didn’t just sign the wedding certificate later….  but i think you have to have an officiant.

i say JOP before and do the ceremony your way!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Butterbee: Haha never mind you beat me to the suggestion 😛

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Even if you can’t pull it off because you need a 3rd party, I still love the idea of speaking directly to each other – I bet you could at least work that in somehow.  Very sweet.  I like it, and have never seen it.

I know this is not what you asked and doesn’t solve your problem, but I think it’s cute!

Good luck 🙂

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