(Closed) Can we choose to have a different priest?!

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My mum is a huge part of the church and is very religious and the main reason we would like to be married in the church is for her

 

^ Not a very good reason to get married in a Catholic Church, it doesnt seem like you have any intention of creating and maintaining a relationship with god so why bother getting married in his house?

 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

From my understanding you are suppose to use the parish that it is your community and that priest. I’m trying to find more info for you though because I read that years ago.

ETA ok found this about using your local parish

http://www.catholicweddinghelp.com/wedding-planning/02-contacting.htm

Then I read this

Can I have my uncle, who is a deacon and lives out of state, officiate at my wedding?

Catholic Clergy from other parishes are regularly welcomed to officiate at weddings. Arrangements should be made with your pastor well in advance.

on this website.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just because you don’t go to church doesn’t mean you do not have a relationship with god. I would just grit your teeth and deal with the priest, it is too late to change anything. Just be cheerful and do what he asks of you, and if he says anything or does anything too mean speak up. The catholic church is in no position to be turning people away, so I dunno why he is acting that way. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your sopposed to join the parish, but that just requires you to fill out some paperwork. If your’e mom joined the church it shouldn’t be a big deal. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you thought about getting married in a non denominational cermony by a minister? Then if you and Fiance have a change of heart or are still drawn to inviting God into your relatonship having the church bless your marriage at a mass?

It wont hurt to ask your old Priest but I wouldn’t get your hopes up to high. He is probably responsible for his own parishes mass’. Although it has and can be done.

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Jamie42003:  I dont doubt that she has some relationship with god as she has stated deep down it does matter; in the Catholic church taking part in the eucharist is a very key part in that relationship. Maybe a different Christian denomination is what she is looking for.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance and I are very good friends with a priest, and while we’re not having a church wedding, we did consider it. We asked him if he would be able to marry us at our parish church, and he said that we would have to ask the presiding parish priest if he could “sit it” on the mass and perform the marriage. Hope this helps – good luck!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You can totally have an outside priest. We wanted to have our wedding at my home parish, but I don’t really know the new priest. So we’re being married by my FI’s childhood priest, but in my childhood church. There’s a little more paperwork on the church’s side- if they’re not in the same diocese, they have to get permission- but completely doable. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sounds like it might be time to make a change in your life and start making more room for God and the Church! If deep down it’s important to you, now is as good a time as any to start nurturing that part of you. I am sure that is what the cranky priest would be trying to convey if he wasn’t busy trying to dislodge the stick that’s got stuck up his rear.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Good luck! I know it won’t be a problem and I totally understand feeling like it’s improtant even though you aren’t practicing at the moment….but you might consider at least raising the kids Catholic, or letting your Mum take them to church.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You should be able to invite a priest who means something to you. You would have to talk both to that priest and the priest at the church you want to get married at.

We had just decided to get married by our current priest at our current church, when he up and announced he had been offered a job at a Cathedral interstate. This could make things more difficult, but we have asked him to fly back for us! He said he would love to, as long as it’s ok with whoever is our priest at the time.

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