Post # 1
My fiance and I are moving to our first apartment together at the end of this month. I really love cats, and want to adopt one.
My fiance says NO lol but I seriously want a cat.
We’re students, so his reasoning is that if we wanted to go back to our hometown for a weekend, we would be unable to with the cat. However, one of our friends says she leaves her cat with water and food for about 2 days just fine.
Edit–we could bring the cat to a relative’s house for the weekend, but I’m not sure if cats like traveling lol. My cat at my parents’ house does terrible traveling.
We go to our hometown maybe once or twice a semester.
Is traveling for a weekend an issue with cats? Thanks!
Post # 3
I would never just leave my pet with food and water and hope for the best. I’m sure you could find someone to check up on the cat once a day?
ETA: My husband and I occasionally cat-sit for his flight doctor. We check on the cats once a day, so no, traveling with a pet isn’t a problem. I personally would never adopt a “Hope for the best” policy.
Post # 4
We’ll occasionally leave our kitty for 1 night by himself. We leave a big bowl of food, dangly toys and a hamster water bottle for him to drink out of. He’s always been fine, but I would not leave him for more than the weekend by himself.
Post # 5
is that the only reason your fiance doesn’t want a cat? there are always ways around that–automatic feeders, asking a friend to check in once a day, etc. if that’s just his excuse but he really doesn’t want a cat, it’s not fair on him or the cat to get one.
Post # 6
@finnaroo: he absolutely loves my cat who lives at my parents’ house. they’re like bffs haha so it definitely wouldn’t be an issue…he secretly wants one but likes saying “no” i think lol
Post # 7
I would at least have someone check in on the cat once a day. Or you could always board him or her for the weekend.
Post # 8
The cat needs to be something you both want and agree to before you get the cat. I have heard of several people (including my FI’s family!) that will leave cats for days with a big bowl of food and water. I was horrified to find out his family did this. We always had a family friend check in our cat when we went on family vaccations. Where I am now, everyone I know has a demanding schedule so I pay for a pet sitter. She visits my cats twice a day to feed them and spends an hour each visit with them. She will take them to the vet if there are any concerns with their health.
A warning about leaving cats alone: someone I knew was moving house and her cats were at the old house while she set up the new one. She only went to check on them every couple of days. One day she came home to find her male cat very ill and almost dead. He had bladder stones that caused a urinary obstruction that went unnoticed for who knows how long. A week in the ICU, surgery, and thousands of dollars later he was finally able to go home.
Post # 9
We have left our two cats in our apartment for up to 3 nights / 4 days. We just set out the big gravity-fed food and water dispensers, leave the tub trickling just in case, and head out. There has never been an issue. It does help that our cats are not finicky about their litter box; we have friends who have to clean out their 3 litter boxes every single day or one of their two cats will start peeing and pooping around the apartment.
If we go out of town for a longer period of time, we just leave a set of keys with a friend and ask them to check on the cats every other day.
If you’re worried that your theoretical cat would get bored and lonely, you can try leaving the TV or the radio on (quietly) while you’re gone. We don’t, and the only thing we notice is that they’re extra-snuggly when we get back.
It really boils down to what you’re comfortable with. I used to arrange boarding for our cats for weekend trips, but after speaking with coworkers and friends we tried leaving the cats to their own devices, and it’s worked great.
Post # 10
A little over a year ago we adopted a cat. We live about 2 hours away from our whole family. When we have to go home for weekends to plan our wedding, we bring her with us. She does fine on the car ride. We have a soft sided carrier for her. She usually sleeps the whole way. Getting her in it is tricky, but once in she is fine.
She stays in the bedroom at his parents house, where we also stay.
I’m not sure if it’s an option for you, but if you could have the cat stay at your fiance’s or your parents house, I think your cat would do just fine. We’ve never had a problem.
I hope you get your kitty! <3
Post # 11
@pixiecat: that’s sad. we would be leaving the cat for the most 2 days and it would be like once every 4-5 months.
Post # 12
@MrsAlice: thank you guys for your help!
Post # 13
We’ve left our cats for 2 days without a problem. Any longer than that, we have someone come and check in on them. I think 48 hours is a rasonable time (for us, anyway.)
All cats are different. It may be different in my case since I have two cats. They can keep each other company so I don’t feel the need to worry.
My mom’s cat can only handle one night alone, or he gets a little angry. He’ll start peeing in her living room if he’s home alone longer than that.
Post # 14
If it’s an indoor/outdoor cat, it will DEFINITELY be fine for 2 days! I don’t know about an indoor cat, though…
Also, you DEFINITELY can’t get a cat f your Fiance doesn’t want one!
Post # 15
Yes, you can leave cats alone for a night or two. Make sure they have lots of water that they cant turn over and spill. But dont leave out a ton of extra food. Sometimes they will overeat out of boredom, they might eat up all their food on day one, but unless you have a cat with special needs like diabetes or kidney issues, it’s not a big deal and they will be fine til you get home. My cat has always survived, and still loves me, and never had any issues at all.
But first checkinto the fees the apartment will charge for pets. Also don’t sneak off and get a cat, wait for him to agree to it. Maybe go by the adoption place and visit with some cats when you both have some spare time.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t unless you & your Fiance are on the same page. But I do think leaving the cat for 2 days every now and then wouldn’t hurt anything.