(Closed) Can we get married in a church if we aren’t members?

posted 10 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
1551 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

From what I understand, it is entirely up to the church. A lot of churches have what they call “wedding ministries” where they make it one of their missions to provide church weddings for those who aren’t members of any church. FWIW, nondemoninational churches (probably because they are independent) seem to have the most liberal policies on marrying nonmembers.

Post # 4
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can absolutely do that, I am! Many Christian, non-Catholic, churches allow it.. you just have to ask! You may have to pay a higher fee for using their church though, since you aren’t a member.

My FI’s church has a congregation of over 7,000, so I didn’t really want the wedding there, and I don’t have a “home” church that I go to often. We agreed on getting married in a beautiful local church that neither had ever stepped foot in before we went to look at it.

Post # 5
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Its possible. Sometimes the church will ask you to pay a fee for use of the building or they may make take a collection to go towards the upkeep (occasionally they do both). You may have to pay extra if you require the organist or to use their flowers/decorations. They may also stipulate that you have to attend counselling.

Post # 6
1484 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

depends on the church

Post # 7
6889 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

99.9% of the time you can, you just as PP have said ask the church. We are getting married in the church I grew up in but since I haven’t gone to church there for over 5 years I am not considered a member anymore even though I was baptized and confirmed in this church. Most of the time you have to pay a fee, which is what we have to do.

Post # 8
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We are getting married in a church we don’t belong to. We’re both practicing Christians who are members of separate churches, but we’re getting married in the church that we plan to attend as a married couple. For us, it was allowed, but there’s a fee involved if you’re not a member.

Post # 9
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It’s all up to the Pastor of that Church. We both wanted to get married in a Church too, and we have our own Pastor, just not a Church so I started calling around. I found that about half of them would allow us to get married there if we weren’t members, but I was surprised at how many said no! Like already mentioned, the fee will be higher. If you are a member, they usually waive most of the fee. Good luck!

Post # 10
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would just go around and ask all the churches what their policy is. My FI’s church is way too small for a wedding, and my parents live in a different state. My Fiance wanted a pipe organ and there was only one church in our town that allowed non-members to get married there. They wouldn’t let us even reserve the date until 6 months beforehand because we were not members and they wanted their members to have preference. It was hard to plan a wedding when I couldn’t be sure of the venue, so we decided on a farm.

But each church has it’s own policy. I’m not sure about baptist churches. But I know that a lot of the Presbyterian, Methodist, and some other denominations would rather their church be used for members. Try a non-denominational church, they may be less strict!

Post # 11
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Usually you can but for a fee.. you would have to ask around

Post # 12
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

The church I got married in (Presbyterian) allowed non-members to marry there.  But you had to pay higher fees and couldn’t book a date until 6 months out.  So there are definitely some added difficulties that come into play with some churches.

Post # 13
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Like others have said, it really depends on the church, so you’d have to do some research and find one that does

Post # 14
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Each church has a different policy.  Some will allow non-members to get married, but will usually charge a higher fee than their members.  Some churches won’t allow non-members to use their sanctuary though.  Also, some churches require you to go through premarital counseling or classes.  There may be other requirements as well.  You just have to ask around. 

Post # 15
1 posts
  • Wedding: September 2018

I hear there is a fee do anyone know the fee?

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