Post # 1
We are having a very informal backyard reception with a buffet, drinks in metal tubs on ice, and the caterer is providing lemonade sweet tea, and water. We’ve invited families and are having kids sit with their parents and we’re not assigning seats because I feel like that’s over stepping bounds when children’s parents are there and they’ll know which kids are getting along that day or not. For reference, one family I have invited has a total of seven children and all are probably attending.
We are having “champagne” toasts. My FI and I don’t drink so we will be toasting with sparkling cider or in my case nonalcoholic wine. We will be providing wine, beer, wine coolers, and non alcoholic options. We may have one of two bottles of champagne for those who like it. I personally don’t, not even NA options, and not many people I know coming like it.
With seats being unassigned, would it be bad form to have a sign out during cocktail hour telling guests pour their choice of beverage to toast with in their flutes before toasts begin?
Post # 2
I dont think so! The event seems informal, should be fine!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s bad for to have the sign. However, since it is a casual affair I think just making an announcement prior to doing the toasts to let everyone know to get a beverage ready would be just fine. Also, if not many people are going to drink champagne I would skip the flutes all together except for some on the side for those that do want champagne and for you and your hubby and just let everyone toast with the beverage they already have.
Post # 4
My mother and grandmother are insisting on the flutes. Mom is paying for the booze and grandma is covering the wedding, I can’t really argue. They agree on nothing but on this they do.
Post # 5
I think it would be helpful to have a couple of family members go around with bottles to make sure everyone has a glass. It will probably help to move things along.
Post # 6
louisianablue: What you said.
If you make an announcement, then guests are going to take a while to get over to the drink stand, line up, get a drink.
I’d expidite the champagne, or just have guests toast with what they’ve got.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We had a semi casual reception and just assumed people had drinks they’d toast with. No flutes, just cups. I doubt anyone thought twice about it. So go for it!
Post # 8
lolot: I wish my mother and grandma would see it the way you do. We weren’t going to have the flutes until my grandmother spent a month and my mom spent two weeks pushing it.
We decided that we’ll just put up a sign during the cocktail hour recommending filling a flute or leaving some in a goblet (all the rental place offers) for the toasts. My family and his are the smallest in number at the wedding and they’re already helping so much.