(Closed) Can we have our rehearsal dinner just be us, our parents, and siblings…

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The rehearsal dinner is traditionally held to thank the wedding party for their time and effort supporting you in your wedding. I would feel uncomfortable not inviting the wedding party and their SO’s.

It doesn’t have to be a formal affair, nor does it have to be a late evening. You an have something relaxed and casual- no need to get stressed about it.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You really should invite anyone who will be attending your rehearsal, including your officiant, all the members of your bridal party, any singers or musicians who may be attending the rehearsal, etc., as well as all of their spouses (if applicable.)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you need to feed those who are attending the rehersal.  It doesn’t have to be dinner.  Maybe do an early rehersal followed by brunch/lunch?

I do not plan on inviting our parents to our rehersal (or the subsequent lunch).  That event will be limited to those in our wedding (us, my kids, my sis/BIL and his bro/SIL).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The whole idea is to thank the wedding party, so you really need to invite them.  Besides, they’ll be at the rehearsal, and it’d be pretty awkward to say “Thanks for rehearsing, now leave so we can go to dinner without you.”  You could have it a few days before the wedding though, so you have the night before to yourself.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I thought the whole point of the rehearsal dinner was a chance to rehearse the speeches etc and it usually follows a rehearsal of walking down the aisle. I think you need to have all the BMs and GMs there

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Could you do a late lunch/early dinner say around 3 or so before the rehearsal? That way it doesn’t run late into the evening, plus there’s a limited amount of time that you have to worry about entertaining a group.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Willow1991:  I would follow the rule for weddings:  You would only need to invite those who are the spouses of, fiancees of or the S.O.s who are living with those you will be inviting to the dinner. 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Traditionally, it’s anyone who is present as your rehersal – so parents, readers, wedding party, officiant…  You invite all of those people, plus their wedding dates (so even if single Susie brought her friend Jack, you invite both to the dinner). 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Willow1991:  What about lunch (or even just appetizers) before?  Then everyone can go home to get to bed early for the big day!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I would totally do that!

Although I would have a rehersal of the wedding itself like 2 or 3 days before and the dinner the night before.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

My Darling Husband was in a wedding where the rehearsal and dinner were on a Thursday and the wedding was on Saturday. That might also work if your bridal party will be in town that early or are close to begin with. 

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