Post # 1
I’m curious to get an outside perspective on this. My fiance and I live in Chicago, but we are getting married in Connecticut, where I’m from and my family lives. I work for a huge company, and am not inviting any coworkers except for a friend from college who happens to work at my company, in a different department.
My fiance works for a smaller company (18 people total, including three partners/owners). He has one coworker who is a friend of his from college who he’ll be inviting. My question is, is it strange or rude to extend invitations to some of his other coworkers without doing so for others? I would be fine inviting his whole office, as we can afford and would be happy to host 36 others. but I worry it would seem gift-grabby to invite a whole office to a wedding 500 miles away (even though we’d love to have them there!). His office is very close, they go out for happy hours often, he’s gone paintballing with them, etc. However, we’re friends outside of work with one of the women he works with and her husband. We’d love to invite just them, but we weren’t sure if that would be seen as rude since he only knows her through work, unlike his college friend.
Thanks for any insight you can offer!
Post # 2
It is fine to just invite the ones with whom you have a social relationship outside the office.
Post # 3
if you/he are friends with outside of work, i would consider them friends (and more than just coworkers). so yes, you can invite your friends and not all your coworkers.
i didn’t invite anyone from work. but my husband had 3 coworkers there, one was a groomsman, who he knew from childhood.
Post # 4
It’s fine to invite some co-workers and not others, especially when there is such a clear divining line (i.e. co-workers you were friends with before ever working together or you hang out with them separately from any type of gathering with other co-workers).
As for inviting all of your FI’s co-workers, I don’t think it’s necessarily gift-grabby if they are all pretty close and frequently get together outside of work. If you want to invite them then you should.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
I say invite them so there’s no drama in the office, but know that probably only a couple will actually travel to come. win-win.
Post # 6
I’m inviting my immediate coworkers, but not my whole department. I work in the IT departmnet, and am only inviting my coworkers that work in the same office as me (developers as oppossed to our security and networking guys). I like them all, but I’m only close with the 5 guys I immediately work with. I’d say invite who you want to invite. I’m sure most people will understand especially since it’s not a local wedding.