- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
ok – so my husband is NOT going to – but he is sooooo close. one of his “closest” friends – or who he THOUGHT was a friend – he chose to be his groomsman. we have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Best man and then one other attended (4 total, 2 each).
thing is – my MOH’s husband is also a very good friend and we WERE going to have him be a third groomsman – but last year, my 3rd bridesmaid backed out on me – so we had to make my MOH’s husband an usher instead. 🙁
we also have felt extremely horrible that this guy’s 30th birthday was about 3 weeks ago – and we couldn’t do ANYTHING because we’ve been SO incredibly broke due to the wedding and me not getting my raise until AFTER the wedding…when he and my Maid/Matron of Honor did SO much for my surprise 30th last year. (which, btw, we are TOTALLY making up to him after the wedding when we have more $$)
so anyways – the actual groomsman has NOT gotten his tux fitting yet – and i facebooked him last night – he FINALLY got back to my hubby today saying “yeah, i suck, i’ll do it by monday, at the latest”…
also – NO word from him on the bachelor party either – which my MOH’s husband was honestly (and actually now is…) planning on this HUGE thing for my husband – but hubby told him to “back off” since groomsman was supposed to do it. So – even though he was hurt – the usher did.
well – my Maid/Matron of Honor has been asking me if there IS anything planned – mainly because usher SHOULD have been called by groomsman about the bachelor party and never has….i even gave usher groomsman’s number – he called – never could get ahold of him though.
so usher and my other bridesmaid’s boyfriend (second usher) are taking my hubby out for his bachelor party this weekend with or without groomsman. which i hope they have a blast.
but yeah. my husband is soooo pissed at groomsman right now. Thing is – they were “work buddies” and hubby has ALWAYS thought of groomsman as one of his best friends…but then groomsman got fired (and got another much better job) last year and they haven’t really spoken too much since – even though I went to groomsman’s wife’s baby shower (alone because hubby had to work) – and WE try to include them in on things… but groomsman’s 30th birthday was actually the day after usher’s 30th birthday – and yet my husband only JUST found out that there was even a party for him! no invitation – no CLUE it had even gone on…
yeah. this sucks. we ARE still keeping groomsman as he is and usher as he is – but personally I’d rather switch the rolls – and hubby almost would – but he’s living with his decision.
I mean – I KNOW it’ll be fine and it’s not like groomsman will cause ANY drama by anymeans…but still.
sorry guess I just needed to vent. thanks. 🙂