Post # 1
Hello to the hive –
So we are having our ceremony and reception at the same location, evening wedding. We are taking pictures before the ceremony to take full advantage of the sunlight… We are having a formal sit down dinner, complete with announcement of the wedding party and the new Mr. and Mrs. (that will be us – YAY) being seated to dinner. (FYI we are NOT having a receiving line)
Question: Are we allowed to mingle with the guests during the cocktail hour following the ceremony? We will not be officially ‘announced’ yet as that happens in the dinning room.
I know that we can do what ever we want, but what is the expectation? I don’t want to hide for an hour, since I hear that the wedding day goes by so fast anyhow… I need to spend 5 minutes after the ceremony getting my gown bustled, but other than that what do we do for an hour?
Post # 3
If you don’t need to be gone taking photos and would rather participate in the cocktail hour, I say go to the cocktail hour and mingle. It doens’t usually happen that way, but honestly as a guest at a cocktail hour, if I don’t know many people I find myself just waiting for it to be over so we can get on with the party. Everyone just wants to celebrate with the bride and groom anyway so I think it would be a nice surprise for that to start earlier.
Post # 4
I have been to several weddings now where the bride and groom have mingled with guests during the cocktail hour, and were still introduced when everyone was seated for dinner. I think it’s a great opportunity to get face-time with each of your guests, so you have more time to dance and party the rest of the night! This is what we will be doing as well, so I say go for it!
Post # 5
I went out for a couple minutes of my cocktail hour, but was instantly hoarded by guests wanting to take pictures. plus, my feet were so tired, so I just went to the bridal room where my wedding coordinator brought trays of fancy cocktails for us to drink 🙂 it was nice to just sit and hang out with the bridal party and relax. it was also kinda fun to be hidden and have the bridesmaids go and get food for me 🙂
Post # 6
There’s no rule to say you can’t. I personally will be skipping the receiving line, and utilizing that hour to let everyone get settled at the reception site while we finish up pictures and take a few moments to relax before the party starts. I like the build up and anticipation of the bride and groom entering and being announced – which would be a little anti-climactic if we mingled beforehand. I am also worried that we would end up being swarmed by guests and not be able to get away to go be announced and start dancing. In other words, I think it would throw our entire order out of whack. Mingling before we’re announced would kinda defeat the purpose, but if it suits your taste then there’s nothing wrong with it. Why not just be announced during the cocktail hour?
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2007 - Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL
I was absolutely itching to mingle during cocktail hour, and had that 30 minutes built into our itinerary for that purpose, after taking some formal family shots. BUT, bustling my dress took longer than anticipated, so I think I only got about 10 mins of mingling in. Go ahead and do it if your schedule allows, you won’t regret it!!
Post # 8
I am planning on mingling with the guests during cocktail hour and it never occured to me that it was "untraditional". But hey, it’s my wedding and I can do what I want! So I say, go for it! You won’t be alone! =)