Post # 1
So me and my SO are having our wedding abroad obviously cuz of some silly reasons. So he wont have basically his own family members at the wedding, like his cuzins, Aunts and uncles. Only his mom + sister will be there. But anywho, We wanted to do a registry but we dont know if its rude to do one and send the info around because we wont be havin a wedding where everyone will attend. I told him that we can have a wedding in the states if he wants, but he doesnt think its a good idea cuz of finances. My dad and I will be paying for the wedding here- We’re all pitching in as much as we can.
So Ya, what do you guys think! Should we still make a registry?? Or will it be rude?
Post # 4
I think it’s fine to register for things you would like. I don’t think, however, that it is appropriate to send the registry information around. If friends or family inquire whether you are registered, then certainly share the registry information with them. Otherwise, it seems like a gift grab, in my opinion.
Post # 5
I’m going to disagree with the other couple of posters – I don’t think that you should be registering for gifts if you are eloping. The people that would be buying you gifts are those who are invited to share your wedding with you – in my opinion the gifts are one thing you give up when choosing to elope. I guess it would be okay to have a small one just in case anyone asks, but you absolutely should not give out that info unless you are asked, otherwise it would be very rude,
Post # 6
I think you should carefully select one store to do a registry at and not advertise it very much. It depends on what your families and friends are like…if they will really want to send a gift. But I don’t think it hurts to be prepared.
Post # 7
Ditto. If you do one, don’t send the info out. I think that’s rude.
Post # 8
agreed. fine to do one, but don’t send around the info. wait until people ask if you are registered.
Post # 9
I think it’s fine to have a registry just in case well-wishing friends ask about it, but DO NOT send out the information without being asked for it. You’d basically be saying “I’m getting married and you’re not invited – but please give me a gift anyway!” I have bought gifts for friends even when I wasn’t invited to the wedding, though, and it was nice to find the registry information when I went looking for it, so yeah, go ahead and make a registry, just don’t advertise it.
Post # 10
Those two things are completely unrelated. I would definitely register no matter what, because if you don’t, you will get a ton of gifts that won’t suit your tastes and you can’t return them anywhere.
Do not volunteer the info of where you are registered. Guests will ask your parents or easily find out on their own.
Post # 11
@Krises: agreed. I got gifts from friends of my mother who were not even invited to the wedding. I didn’t even know they were going to do it– they asked my mom for the registry info.
no matter what, you are going to get at least a few people asking if you have a registry. if they really want to buy you a gift, then a registry makes it easier for them so it’s a courtesy to have one ready.
but like PPs have said: don’t send it around to everyone.
Post # 12
Ditto those saying DO NOT send out the information. If people want to give you a gift, they will. They’ll find out from your mom or other family where you are registered. Sending registry information out is never a good idea under any circumstances, but especially when guests aren’t invited to the actual wedding.