(Closed) Can you be friends with someone you are attracted to?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Can two people who are attracted to each other be friends?
    Of course, it's self control! : (37 votes)
    50 %
    Of course not, it's common sense! : (37 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Of course they can.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Not if you are married.  I wouldn’t, personally.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee

    @cbee:  This.

     

    If both people are single, not a problem.

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think you can be, but I don’t think it’s a good idea unless you’re always in a group situation. Even then…probably not advisable?

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It depends on what you mean by attracted to each other?

    Alot of women have friends who are men, who are good looking. No problem.

    BUT if a woman in a relationship has a crush on one of those men & they are not her man, that could be a problem.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I probably can’t. 

    But I’m not going to say no one else could. Some people can separate sexual attraction and crushes from their reality. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee

    I voted no, but I think it’s important to distinguish between finding someone attractive (aka have good looking friends of the opposite sex) and actively being attracted to someone. For instance, I have some “attractive” guy friends but I am not personally attracted to them. If you’re attracted to a male friend, you should reconsider where you stand in your current relationship.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Petite_Fraise:  <— This. Finding someone attractive dosn’t really mean anything serious…

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    Of course! One of my best friends is someone who’s bones I would jump in an instant if I weren’t taken. He’s attracted to me to. Doesn’t mean we can’t set it aside and just be best friends. If I wasn’t friends with people there was sexual attraction to or from at SOME point in time I’d have like, NO friends. I’m a very sexual person. Doesn’t mean I’m going to DO anything about it. And my man knows I am what I am and just takes it in stride as another facet of who I am. Just because I have a moment where I want some other guys d*ck doesnt mean that I can’t ignore it and just sit down with them for a Netflix marathon. And it doesn’t mean I don’t love my man with all my heart. I just means that I like d*ck. lol

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think it’s possible, but in my opinion, it’s playing with fire. I’d rather not take the risk.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think you can be but it might not be the best idea.  

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