(Closed) Can you decline a babyshower?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Please don’t think you are having too many events too close together.

2 years ago you had your son, 19 months later you had your wedding, and 10 months after the wedding you will have your next baby.

I think many couples would have a wedding and children in that time frame.

While I acknowledge your desire to keep things low key, it probably brings much pleasure to your friends and family to celebrate these events in your life with you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it is totally understandable how you feel. Personally, if I was in your shoes, I would decline a shower too and it is ok to do so. Many people do showers for each child but some also feel that is unnecessary. I would only want a shower for my first child and that is it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

maybe in lieu of a baby shower you ask any family members who wish to buy you a gift, to give the funds they would’ve spent on a gift to some sort of charity that’s important to you and your family. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I think so – I declined wedding shower offers, just be gracious and appreciative. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’d just let you aunt know that you’d like to keep this pregnancy low-key, maybe you don’t need all the baby stuff if you still have it from your first?

If she insists and you just aren’t up to arguing with her you could always ask for a no-gift shower or something like a diaper shower.

I’m not a shower fan so I let me mom. Mother-In-Law + SIL know I’d prefer not to have a baby shower pretty soon after we told them we were expecting. Not only did we just have a wedding a year ago, but our family is pretty spread out geographically and baby is due in late Jan. so timing just sucks. I think it’s perfectly ok to decline a shower, for any reason! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe say no to a shower, but yes to a family get together? That way you can have it be a no present, no money spending thing, but still give your aunt a chance to host everyone and celebrate the new baby, which seems like her intent.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

@Miss Peach Tree: I concur- let them have the party mut maybe skip the gifts!

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