Post # 1
Hi bees, newly engaged bee here!
I have a question I haven’t yet found an answer to: is there specific etiquette about giving my groom to be a gift at our engagement party? I found a pair of dinosaur bone cufflinks I’d love for him to wear at the wedding. From what I’ve read here, there isn’t any etiquette on cufflinks so I’m wondering if that would be weird! We’ve already asked the rest of our wedding party to stand up and we’re planning to give them gifts then (small ones equivalent to something you’d give when asking to stand up, not what we’re planning to give them at the rehearsal dinner).
Any advice is appreciated!
Post # 2
I don’t really know how the bride/groom gifts work because we didn’t do that, but I would imagine that’s fine? Why the engagement party though? Why not like morning of or night before the wedding? Are you planning to give them to him in front of your guests?
Post # 3
I would probably do it privately
Post # 4
Things to think about:
Would he feel bad that you gave him a gift but he didn’t give you one?
Most engagement parties I have gone to, do not have any gift opening at the party. Would opening a single gift in front of everyone be akward?
Are your attendants going to stand up and then while standing open a gift in front of everyone? Would that be akward?
I think this is a case of only you know your fiance and friends as to how they would feel/react to the gifts.
Post # 5
I’d give then to him in private , partly because you can’t be dead sure he’ll love them and partly because you probably want to say that you want him to wear them at the wedding , and that wil put him on the spot, besides being rather a private thing to be done in front of a crowd.
But then I wouldn’t do the wedding party standing up to be given gifts either , my idea of an engagement party is much more relaxed and casual I think , plus I’ve never been into public stuff like that