Can You Have a Feminist Wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

We did. No giving away, no asking permission, no dowery or bride price, no bouquet or garter toss, no “Who giveth this woman”–in fact the whole text of the ceremony was edited to exclude sexism. Food, drink, music, friends, family, garden, photos, moving words, good feelings, and cake. Lovely.

(Also, no favors, centerpieces, chair covers, attendants, photo booth, cake topper, decorations, dollar dance, honey fund, etc., etc. And all the thank-you notes mailed within three weeks.)

Post # 3
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

cassandra7 :  your wedding sounds like my dream come true! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Kind of you, lizzy3400–it was really very nice. Simple, but pretty and hospitable. I invited 50 people; he invited fifty people. The only big change I’d make is that I’d do a small registry somewhere–and I might not invite all my cousins just because they’re cousins.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I think some people are a little confused as to what feminism actually is…

Feminism is about giving a woman the same right a man has to choose.
A woman can choose to take her husband’s surname and still be a feminist.
A woman can choose to be walked down the aisle by her father and still be a feminist.
A woman can choose to do the bouquet/garter toss and still be a feminist.

I am choosing to only do one out of the three examples above but I do not judge any woman who decides to do all three because at the end of the day I am a feminist and I support a female’s right to make those decisions for herself like the grown ass woman she is.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I think you can have a feminist wedding by having whatever wedding you want to have.

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