Post # 1
My eldest sister who is +10 years my senior is upset that I don’t want those printed, decorated, pin-on ribbons at my wedding ceremony.
I don’t know the correct name. She wants to do one with feathers for my wedding. I told her that I wasn’t planning on doing them since no one would miss them. She badgered me on and on until I told her that she could try and create one with cotton or cotton on stalks if she soooo wanted to do some. She got even more upset because she wants to do them with feathers. Now I’m not the girly feathery type of girl and I told her that they would be very odd at the wedding.
We eventuallly asked my other 2 sisters what their thoughts on them were and one said that they were very old style and another said that they were garbage. That got her even more upset. She told me with venom that when people are leaving they are going to be thinking “What kinda wedding did I just go to!”
I never knew that people could be so emothional over these sort of things! She had them at her wedding many moons ago but I just don’t want them.
My mom in a much lighter mood told me that even if I don’t want them, she and said sister would be giviing them out before I arrive at the wedding and the only thing I would be able to do at that point is to get upset.
Am I being crazy for not wanting these? Any other bees out there doing these?
Post # 3
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I do not think you’re ridiculous at all. You have a different style than your sister and that is fine. What I think is ridiculous is that regardless of how you and your fiance feel about these things (whatever they are) your mom said they would make them/give them out anyway. Really?? I’m a calm bride (and trying to stay that way with only 7 weeks left), but that would make me angry.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Hold your ground. Those seem SOOOOO dated.
Post # 5
Find them and hide then before the wedding! 😉
Post # 6
I’ve never even seen those before…
Post # 7
@tiff-tiff-tiff: VERY dated IMO. Yikes. Hold your ground and take back your wedding. You don’t want to go through the day realizing your special day doesn’t refelct you guys at all. Terrible!
Post # 8
I don’t understand your mom’s and sister’s attitude…it is your wedding…what does it mean..that they will give them away regardlesss of how you feel about it? WTF? What is the purpose of these bows anyway?
If you want people to know what wedding they are attending (like they don’t know already)…you can attach tags or stickers with names and date to your wedding favors…but these bows don’t seem to have much purpose to me..
Post # 9
@tiff-tiff-tiff: don’t do it…don’t do it! If you don’t like it, pass!!
Post # 10
I’ve never seen those before either, nor do I understand what purpose they serve.
A complete waste of money, in my opinion.
Back away from the wedding Mom and Sis!
Post # 11
I’ve never even seen these? You’re not crazy and shouldn’t do them if you don’t want to, I’m pretty sure no one will miss them. And it is a bit of a weird thing for her to be upset about!
Post # 12
I’ve never even seen those things before. What exactly is the purpose? Just to pin on your shirt/dress?
Whatever they are, hold your ground! If you dont want them in your wedding, then dont let them be!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
If someone handed those to me there is no way in heck I would wear it. I would probably toss it.
I would hold firm.
Post # 14
@tiff-tiff-tiff: count me among those who have never seen them but they STILL seem old fashion to me! I would have a serious “I feel… when… because….” talk with them.
“I feel hurt when you insist on doing things at my wedding that I specifically asked you not to because it implies I am not important and your feelings matter more than mine.”
Post # 15
If you’re having a 90’s theme wedding- they’ll be great. Otherwise burn them with fire.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I don’t get it. What are these? Never seen them before.